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Until women start telling the truth about their contribution in the problems that they face in their relationships, stop playing the victim ALWAYS, & start being accountable it will be easier to solve some of these problems. But y'all not ready for such a conversation.
Some of the marriages are built on shaky foundations. Some women trapped their husbands with pregnancy. Let's talk about those who used jujur/annointed oils/water to have or to keep one. How about those who ignored all the red flags & got married hoping they will change him?
Oh! There are those who married out of desperation, fear or running away from poverty. Others got pressured into marriage, kozoti vamwe they just wanted to prove kuti vanorooreka... a lot married wrong, and others knowingly married people for all the wrong reasons...
So before you start saying women are seeing flames in these marriages always try to get the other of the story or at least get to understand kuti foundation ye relationship yacho yakambomira sei. We have people who are seeing flames in marriages not because munhu akazochinja
But because they deliberately ignored red flags and went on to marry a person hoping they will change him. Others married for money but vaamo they saw kuti haina basa stereki compared to happiness. Others trapped munhu anga asingatovade nenhumbu or even ne juju
But when shit backfires they don't tell you the truth kuti this is how it began, they will just say marriage is showing us flames or men are trash. Some women make wrong dating choices but never admit it in their sad marriage narrative kuti vakabhaiza.
They are always blaming and bashing men. Their sympathisers run with that narrative without checking the facts or hearing the other side of the story. And as long as we keep on doing this, we will never find lasting solutions to our relationship problems. Mirai Pachokwadi.
I am not saying kuti people they are not abused in these marriages. Definitely they are. However we can only be able to really know some of these things and come to that conclusion kuti this one is wrong or not when we have all the facts on the table.
It also helps us to come up with ideas on how to solve problems. But tikashanda ne script rakanyorwa neone gender whilst marriage involves two genders we will always blame & bash without coming up with lasting solutions to help us deal with problems. Accountability
