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Last year my outlook on life has changed completely.
I went from having a mindset of scarcity and pessimism to abundance and optimism. And things have never been better.
I get questions once in a while asking me why I would trust someone to do X or not do Y, here is why...
I went from having a mindset of scarcity and pessimism to abundance and optimism. And things have never been better.
I get questions once in a while asking me why I would trust someone to do X or not do Y, here is why...
1. Abundance attracts abundance and pays dividends even when you don't care about those dividends.
From the point of view of personal growth, it's a lot more efficient to be optimistic and to spread optimism.
Positive attracts positive, which compounds over time.
From the point of view of personal growth, it's a lot more efficient to be optimistic and to spread optimism.
Positive attracts positive, which compounds over time.
2. Scarcity mindset makes you waste time. Envy, regret, making sure you get yours -- these are all things that provide nothing of value for anyone. All they do is take up time -- time that could be used on doing good.
3. Positivity makes you get more done. --
3. Positivity makes you get more done. --
When you are positive, you have energy to do things. Hopefully good things that lead to other good things. It builds up over time and you start attracting smart and positive people.
4. Talking with smart and positive people opens up opportunities. Instead of chasing an opening
4. Talking with smart and positive people opens up opportunities. Instead of chasing an opening
... people just approach you and offer things. Sometimes it's one-sided, but most of the time they just want to surround themselves with other positive people.
It wasn't easy to switch how I thought about things. It took practice. If you struggle with this yourself, some tips:
It wasn't easy to switch how I thought about things. It took practice. If you struggle with this yourself, some tips:
Here is what I did to help me feel more positive. At first, it was artificial, but then naturally shifted to feel natural:
1. Stop paying attention to news. The news cycle is like junk food for the brain. It will eat away at your attention, rob you of your sense of control..
1. Stop paying attention to news. The news cycle is like junk food for the brain. It will eat away at your attention, rob you of your sense of control..
I stopped mainstream news many years ago. It helped tremendously, but wasn't enough.
2. Curated myself into a positivity bubble. This only happened last year, but it helped a TON!
Basically, unfollow anyone who gives you bad vibes...
2. Curated myself into a positivity bubble. This only happened last year, but it helped a TON!
Basically, unfollow anyone who gives you bad vibes...
If they are friends and tweet mostly positive things but still go off and ruin your vibe, mute them on occasion and unmute when you feel enough time has passed. I do this often - and I don't think they are any wiser to it. No harm done.
If someone gives me bad vibes 24/7 - gone
If someone gives me bad vibes 24/7 - gone
3. Think of everyone as a global citizen - no boundaries, physical or artificial. Culture, religion -- great, keep it, identify as whatever -- to me you are just a person.
4. Actively celebrated people's accomplishments. It feels nice to feel good for others who deserve it...
4. Actively celebrated people's accomplishments. It feels nice to feel good for others who deserve it...
5. The hardest part - saying thanks more often. I still fail at this one, but it works so well at getting me to stay positive. At first, it felt fake and weird, but the more I said thank you to people, the more naturally it became.
6. Actively reached out to people ->
6. Actively reached out to people ->
It's easy to push things into the void on the internet. But once you create a human connection, it feels so much better to know someone out there knows you and you can talk to them any time. So, I try to get to know people.
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7. "There's plenty for everyone". I try to share in the open and be as helpful as possible. Ideas, resources, whatever you need, ask and I will do my best to deliver.
Before I would closely guard info, now I share it with everyone.
Before I would closely guard info, now I share it with everyone.
8. Try to be as honest as possible with everyone and not pretend to be anything I'm not.
While I self-filter like everyone else, I try to be as plain as possible otherwise. I value easy-going genuine people and hope to be the same for others.
While I self-filter like everyone else, I try to be as plain as possible otherwise. I value easy-going genuine people and hope to be the same for others.
9. Try to think of people as a generally positive force for good. One positive action can trigger a chain of other actions that can quickly spread country to country, to continents.
It's fun to think of how one gesture, thought or share can turn into a global web of good.
It's fun to think of how one gesture, thought or share can turn into a global web of good.
