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A thread on what to look out for before getting married:
Financial preparation:
No one expects to be 100% prepared for any and all things that may come after getting married. However, financial preparation means, in the broadest sense:
If you’re living paycheck to paycheck; don’t get married. Save up and then move on to it.
No one expects to be 100% prepared for any and all things that may come after getting married. However, financial preparation means, in the broadest sense:
If you’re living paycheck to paycheck; don’t get married. Save up and then move on to it.
Financial protection:
Sadly, getting in debt is a natural occurrence in today’s economy. However, if you predict a mountain of debt to get married; expecting that mountain to get heavier with married life. Don’t get married.
The single life is painful, a life of debt is worse.
Sadly, getting in debt is a natural occurrence in today’s economy. However, if you predict a mountain of debt to get married; expecting that mountain to get heavier with married life. Don’t get married.
The single life is painful, a life of debt is worse.
Financial cooperation:
Gone are the days of one member of the house being the bread-winner.
If you can’t see yourself providing for the household (a), or expecting assistance from your partner (b).
(a) Then don’t get married.
(b) Wrong partner.
Gone are the days of one member of the house being the bread-winner.
If you can’t see yourself providing for the household (a), or expecting assistance from your partner (b).
(a) Then don’t get married.
(b) Wrong partner.
Financial planning:
You’ve met the dream partner, but you feel shy to discuss financials
. If so, don’t get married.
Lay out your plans and expectations (financially speaking) and that way the person of your dreams can become a reality.
No one wants nightmares.
You’ve met the dream partner, but you feel shy to discuss financials
. If so, don’t get married.Lay out your plans and expectations (financially speaking) and that way the person of your dreams can become a reality.
No one wants nightmares.
Financial independence:
Specifically for women, if you have ambitions then lay then out to your potential husband.
Do it because having financial independence will always give you strength; to support your husband and also to have an equal voice by your own right.
Specifically for women, if you have ambitions then lay then out to your potential husband.
Do it because having financial independence will always give you strength; to support your husband and also to have an equal voice by your own right.
Emotional availability:
Trust me, this one’s important.
Ignore love and the heart’s desire for a minute.
If you see that this person is someone you can come to relay your greatest fears to, place your trust in, and share your day without fear of judgement. Then go for gold!
Trust me, this one’s important.
Ignore love and the heart’s desire for a minute.
If you see that this person is someone you can come to relay your greatest fears to, place your trust in, and share your day without fear of judgement. Then go for gold!
Emotional intelligence:
Google it if you don’t understand it.
This is vital as it is useful for your children to understand as well.
Be able to differentiate between love & obsession; desire & possession; jealousy & controlling.
WANT your partner, but never NEED them.
Google it if you don’t understand it.
This is vital as it is useful for your children to understand as well.
Be able to differentiate between love & obsession; desire & possession; jealousy & controlling.
WANT your partner, but never NEED them.
Brutal honesty:
True, many of us want a family and life partner. However, we shouldn’t con our way into it.
Be honest and open when getting to know them. Lay out your flaws and give them the opportunity to accept you for who you truly are, not the image you crafted for them.
True, many of us want a family and life partner. However, we shouldn’t con our way into it.
Be honest and open when getting to know them. Lay out your flaws and give them the opportunity to accept you for who you truly are, not the image you crafted for them.
Introductions:
Share your interests with each other and find the differences.
Don’t be afraid of differences, we’re all unique and that’s beautiful.
Then ask yourselves if you can live with these differences; will they bring you closer or push you further apart.
Share your interests with each other and find the differences.
Don’t be afraid of differences, we’re all unique and that’s beautiful.
Then ask yourselves if you can live with these differences; will they bring you closer or push you further apart.
Marriage mentality:
If you’re getting into a marriage thinking “well, divorce is always an option” then don’t get married.
True, divorce is something that happens. However, why be the couple who are “better off divorced”?
This ties in with “introductions”
If you’re getting into a marriage thinking “well, divorce is always an option” then don’t get married.
True, divorce is something that happens. However, why be the couple who are “better off divorced”?
This ties in with “introductions”
“The Right Thing To Do”
Simple, if you’re getting married because it’s “the right thing to do” then chances are it’s the wrong thing to do.
Marriage is an amazing step, but one that should be taken for better reasons than that.
Simple, if you’re getting married because it’s “the right thing to do” then chances are it’s the wrong thing to do.
Marriage is an amazing step, but one that should be taken for better reasons than that.
Take advice:
Ask for advice. That’s all, not guidance that is basically telling you what to do, but advice.
Trust in the advice of your family, your closest friends, and in your gut feeling.
Ofcourse, above all else; trust in God and pray for his guidance in this decision.
Ask for advice. That’s all, not guidance that is basically telling you what to do, but advice.
Trust in the advice of your family, your closest friends, and in your gut feeling.
Ofcourse, above all else; trust in God and pray for his guidance in this decision.
That’s about it.
Remember, marriage is a beautiful union of two souls that is meant to last a lifetime.
If you’re going to take that step, then think before you act, and good luck!
Remember, marriage is a beautiful union of two souls that is meant to last a lifetime.
If you’re going to take that step, then think before you act, and good luck!
