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Some of the men who claim to have the most ghayrah are actually the most inconsiderate to their women. Consider this hadith:
"I told him, ‘I felt shy, because I know you're a jealous man.’ He said, ‘It's worse for me to see you carrying the dates on your head...'
"I told him, ‘I felt shy, because I know you're a jealous man.’ He said, ‘It's worse for me to see you carrying the dates on your head...'
than to see you riding behind him.’"
Of course, they are speaking about the best of men ﷺ, and his companions, but the point is that Sayydina Al-Zubayr's (ra) concern revolved primarily revolved around relieving difficulty that fell upon his wife, Sayyida Asma (ra) /2
Of course, they are speaking about the best of men ﷺ, and his companions, but the point is that Sayydina Al-Zubayr's (ra) concern revolved primarily revolved around relieving difficulty that fell upon his wife, Sayyida Asma (ra) /2
Some men have their priorities flipped. They will get very protective when it comes to mixed gender interactions but fail to give due consideration to the hardships their women face. /3
For example, at the airport you might see some perfectly healthy, conservative looking men stroll along the airport while their wives carry all the luggage as if she is his personal servant. No sense of awareness and concern in relieving her of difficulty. /4
Granted, among the youth, the idea of protective jealousy has also become watered down although it is necessary for our faith.
When ghayrah comes holistically - both protective jealousy coupled with affection and concern, it is from the most important and best of qualities. /5
When ghayrah comes holistically - both protective jealousy coupled with affection and concern, it is from the most important and best of qualities. /5
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَكْمَلُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِيمَانًا أَحْسَنُهُمْ خُلُقًا وَخِيَارُكُمْ خِيَارُكُمْ لِنِسَائِهِمْ خُلُقًا
“The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behaviour to their women.” (Tirmidhi)
“The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behaviour to their women.” (Tirmidhi)
