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Sekarang kalo lg pdkt ke org gw selalu mengulik hubungannya dgn ortu dan keluarganya.
Kalo sampe dia membenci ortu/keluarganya, auto ilfill.
Bukannya mau judgemental tapi let me explain the reason and the logic why...
Kalo sampe dia membenci ortu/keluarganya, auto ilfill.
Bukannya mau judgemental tapi let me explain the reason and the logic why...
First of all, yg benci/ga bs menghargai ortu/keluarganya cenderung self centered. Everything is only about them and seen only from their point of view.
Krn selama ini merasa yg jd korban jd ketika menjalin hubungan dgn org lain cenderung mau balas dendam atau...
Krn selama ini merasa yg jd korban jd ketika menjalin hubungan dgn org lain cenderung mau balas dendam atau...
tujuan utamanya cari seseorg yg ga menyalahkan dia. Padahal semua org ga ada yg luput dari kesalahan. Ketika dia sendiri yg membuat kesalahan dia ga mau disalahkan lg dan berpotensi besar akan menyalahkan org lain (pasangannya).
Kedua, if they (feel) never been loved by their family, orientasi menjalin relationship adalah cari kasih sayang yg selama ini dirasa ga didapat (passively, not actively). Kasiannya mrk gampang jatuh cinta o/ iming2 palsu.
In other hand mrk cenderung ga tau bgmn menyayangi seseorang secara tulus karena selama ini (merasa) ga diajarin (didapatkan) dari keluarganya. Jd ketika merasa pasangannya udah ga sayang lg (pdhl sometimes ditegasin demi perkembangan kepribadian yg lbh baik dia jg)...
dia cenderung mudah melepaskan dan mencari kasih sayang dari org lain lg. Begitu seterusnya entah sampai kapan sadar atau bisa belajar benar2 menyayangi secara tulus.
They tend to be difficult to see the bigger picture in every event, hny mengikuti current emotional aja.
They tend to be difficult to see the bigger picture in every event, hny mengikuti current emotional aja.
Kasian sebenarnya, tapi mau gmn lg.
It's really hard to have a relationship with such person.
If u think it'll worth the sacrifice, go ahead.
To me, having such experience once is enough.
It's tiring, exhausting, and hurtful.
I'd rather spending time to build my own self.
It's really hard to have a relationship with such person.
If u think it'll worth the sacrifice, go ahead.
To me, having such experience once is enough.
It's tiring, exhausting, and hurtful.
I'd rather spending time to build my own self.
I didn't say org yg broken home/ortunya cerai/keluarganya hancur ya. Ga perlu keluarganya hancur utk membuat seseorang membenci ortu/keluarganya dan ga semua yg broken home ga merasa disayang oleh keluarganya. It's a completely different thing.
If u can't find the differences, then u're not even eligible to discuss about this. Keep it for yourself, hope u never experience it yoursel. I don't need everyone to agree with me. Just sharing my experience and my personal analysis.
In the end it's only our ownselves have the biggest influence on our personal growth. Just reflect everything happened in your life to correct what's wrong and keep what's right. Nobody is perfect anyway but it's not supposed to be the excuse to be an asshole.
I believe everyone can always be a better person all the time as long u have a healthy self-consciousness and always do self-check/reflect your own self for every life event. That's all. Happy Sunday, folks! 
