The other day, my friend offered me some framboise (raspberry liqueur) with some celebratory champagne. Slightly drunk, I reminded her I don't speak French. Her reply:
‘I know you're so passionate about etymology, so I didn't want to assume you didn't know.’
‘I know you're so passionate about etymology, so I didn't want to assume you didn't know.’
It struck me as a good illustration of the opposite of mansplaining. My friend waited for me to ask. She didn't just assume I was in the dark about something in which I have professed an interest, and have some knowledge.
Men often don't do that. They explain without prompting.
Men often don't do that. They explain without prompting.
As it happened, if I'd been less drunk, I actually would have known ‘framboise’ – it's like ‘frambuesa’ in Spanish, which I learned for years. My friend likely knew this, as she knows I used to be conversationally fluent.
She explained. But only when I asked her to explain.
She explained. But only when I asked her to explain.
Reply guys, take note. Ask yourself how likely it is that a woman knows what you're about to tell her – ESPECIALLY if she's discussing an area in which she has previously revealed an interest.
Don't assume you need to explain publishing to an author, or paint to a painter.
Don't assume you need to explain publishing to an author, or paint to a painter.