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I'm seeing a lot of "tips" going around for new Dommes, with the focus on age verification, avoiding scams, tribute amounts, session fees, and such.
Which are all GREAT. But I am, terrifyingly, seeing little to nothing about what comes before ALL of that.
SSC, RACK, PRICK.
Which are all GREAT. But I am, terrifyingly, seeing little to nothing about what comes before ALL of that.
SSC, RACK, PRICK.
Let's talk about this a little bit.
First, what is SSC? SSC is the baseline of any interaction.
It means Safe, Sane, and Consensual.
Safe - is what you're doing SAFE?
Sane - are you both in the proper state of mind for this?
Consensual - is ENTHUSIASTIC consent given?
First, what is SSC? SSC is the baseline of any interaction.
It means Safe, Sane, and Consensual.
Safe - is what you're doing SAFE?
Sane - are you both in the proper state of mind for this?
Consensual - is ENTHUSIASTIC consent given?
There should always be some kind of conversation before any kink/fetish is performed. Even if it's just "here are my kinks, Princess" or "what are your hard limits, my pet?"
If either party doesn't feel something is safe, it shouldn't be done. If either party is not in a good //
If either party doesn't feel something is safe, it shouldn't be done. If either party is not in a good //
headspace, it shouldn't be done. If either party is not enthusiastically saying "YES YES YES" then it shouldn't be done.
Moving from SSC to RACK.
RACK is Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. This is when certain kinks may not seem "Safe" for the SSC version.
Moving from SSC to RACK.
RACK is Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. This is when certain kinks may not seem "Safe" for the SSC version.
Everyone's version of "Safe" may differ. RACK is there to be a little more specific.
Risk-Aware - being aware of the risks of, say, ballbusting is important. You, as a Domme, should be 100% aware of all the risks and be prepared to either prevent or fix them.
Risk-Aware - being aware of the risks of, say, ballbusting is important. You, as a Domme, should be 100% aware of all the risks and be prepared to either prevent or fix them.
Consensual - again, this comes up a lot. Because consent is non-negotiable. It is KEY. When you DM a potential sub/pet and start immediately calling them pigs or degrading them, you are violating their consent. You did not discuss what was okay and not okay.
Kink - This is obvious, but the kink is the activity, session, power exchange, etc.
As a Domme, you should use RACK to assess a session beforehand. Can you name every risk involved in the kink? Can you mitigate any negative effects? Can you fix it if something goes wrong?
As a Domme, you should use RACK to assess a session beforehand. Can you name every risk involved in the kink? Can you mitigate any negative effects? Can you fix it if something goes wrong?
If you cannot say yes to every single thing above, then do NOT perform the kink. Just don't do it. I don't care how good the money is. If you cannot 100% say for certain that your sub will not obtain life-long damage from this, don't. do. it.
Moving from SSC to RACK to PRICK. PRICK is very, very important and the final thing to consider.
Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink.
Personal Responsbility is big as a Domme. We are in control, yes. But that control hinges entirely on our Subs trust in us.
Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink.
Personal Responsbility is big as a Domme. We are in control, yes. But that control hinges entirely on our Subs trust in us.
We have a Personal Responsibility to these people. They are trusting us to perform a service and provide a kink session SAFELY and reliably. You need to research everything you possible can involving whatever you're getting into. You need to have a checklist. You need to have a//
plan if something goes wrong. We hope it never will, but shit happens. Being a proper Domme, a good Domme, and being in a good D/S relationship involves being responsible and informed.
And, always always always remember. Kinks you and your sub are involved in may not always //
And, always always always remember. Kinks you and your sub are involved in may not always //
be JUST you and your sub. Make sure anyone that could possibly become involved has also enthusiastically consented to the kink session.
Always be aware of where you are and what you're doing and do NOT involve anyone who has not consented in the kink.
Always be aware of where you are and what you're doing and do NOT involve anyone who has not consented in the kink.
This is absolutely not a be all, end all thread on the subject, but meant to guide you in the right direction and encourage research and discussion on kinks and our position as Dommes.
