The gang rape of a Pakistani woman has outraged us, but the everyday rape culture fails to outrage us. Here are the things we need to stop doing in order to protect women from being violated while they do mundane things like travelling.

1. Rape is about the rapist more than its about the victim. What compels a criminal to not just violate a woman but to also humiliate her personally, publicly and sexually is where the outrage belongs. For a sitting police official to victim-blame means he has misplaced the crime

2. Stop using bandaids to address rape culture because it needs systemic reversals. You can't "gender sensitize the police" your way out of this horrific act. You can't blame previous governments, you have to understand and acknowledge control failures throughout the country.

3. Stop the speculative commentary. What if she had her gas tank full and what if she left at a less ungodly hour. Isn't the responsibility of the state towards its citizens to protect during only office hours? Its bizarre. Stop embarrassing yourselves.

4. Stop reductionist thinking. Rape happens everywhere, its as random and undeserving as death. It happens in madrassas, it happens in homes and its often perpetrated by a trusted network of friends and family often towards minors.

5. Stop reacting by making women smaller. When Zainab was raped, the country talk shows insisted we keep girls indoors and "protected" - the only protection against this is deterring rape by adequate punishment. Risk aversion is never a solution. Rape culture will find you.

6. Stop saying you are helpless. Do what you can do. Give what you have most of. If you are a man, stop tolerating locker room talk. If you are a journalist write. If you are a woman, take a deep breath and say that you will honor this woman and her children by being braver.

7. Stop making parallels. History is replete with evil. Just because this happened before doesn't mean it should continue to happen. Rape has its roots in the idea that women are property. If they cease to belong to a man, they will be more likely to hack the honor code.

8. Stop being a reptile. The fight, flight and freeze response is not very humane. This issue, similar to the Delhi Gang Rape, requires a national criss-cutting movement. It's more important to solve this mindset than it is to settle political scores by men for men. Legislate.

9. Stop assuming only women get raped. This country is replete with the violation of young boys and of transgenders. Power here is derived from the ability to hurt someone back. With 50 million below poverty line, many are at risk and the law needs better execution.

10. Stop the good woman/ bad woman binary. There are only people. A girl is only a girl and a woman is only a woman and a mother is only a mother. There is nothing more to the story but that a human being was hurt and robbed and emotionally mugged by a terrorist.