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Fat person: Maybe think about how the way you talk about your body and the bodies of others can negatively impact other people around you
Thin person: [bursts in] WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WITH EATING DISORDERS
Thin person: [bursts in] WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WITH EATING DISORDERS
as if only thin people can have eating disorders, as if the way we talk about bodies isn't a huge trigger for eating disorders, as if having an eating disorder means you're incapable of learning new things or controlling your language, as if -
I generally try to be really kind with people who do this, because usually they're in a lot of pain and struggling with their own disorders, but the constant derailing REALLY GETS TO ME
A lot of thin people have learned that treating fat people like they've been Problematic because....eating disorders? is a really effective way to derail, and you can't tell the difference between someone not intending to derail vs someone doing it out of direct fatphobic malice
Also the idea that people with ED can't learn about harm they may be inadvertently causing and seek to change it always seems...insulting to them? It's not an easy thing to do but it doesn't make them incapable. (But I don't have ED so I could be wrong about that being insulting)
(It just reminds me of ways I've seen some creators with ADHD let off the hook for certain things because "they can't help it, they have ADHD!" and how deeply infantilizing that feels, as if having ADHD means you can't create anything really good, only good for someone with ADHD)
