My first marriage was the biggest test and eye opener for me SubhanAllah. We can do all we can to get to know somebody however they can still surprise us. The reality is many men @ women are playing and do not fear Allah, their adaab is weak,Sisters be picky about a mans deen but

Understand we all have work to do and the main thing we have to understand is that marriage needs to be grounded and founded on the love for Allah / Islaam and the Sunnah. We as women and the men in this ummah need to comprehend that marriage takes work and patience.

Get married with the idea of never getting divorced and that this is your person until your last day. Things happen so Alhamdulillah for everything. But your intentions and integrity when you get married are everything. Understand that your husband will not be perfect and that

Is okay. Support him uplift him and remind him of Allah. Your spouse should remind you of Allah and you should as well. This dunya is full of fitnah. Your home and your spouse should be the coolness to your eyes and heart and you to yours. Work together as a unit.

Obey Allah, follow the sunnah and Love eachother for the sake of Allah in hopes of reuniting again in Jannah.
More importantly as a single muslim work on your obedience to Allah and the other half of your deen. Work on your ibaadah and have discipline.