You are not an ally if you have no trouble burdening women with your emotional baggage but are fully incapable of being an actual ally when the opportunity presents itself.

Side note: talking about your mental health is not burdening people, using it as an excuse or as a way to manipulate people when you don't want to accept responsibility or criticism for your actions is.

Also, menfolk, quit making women's experiences all about your feelings!
We get that it sucks to be part of a demographic that is percieved as a threat to women's safety. You can change that reality by being an actual ally and calling out the bad behaviour of other men.