black men grow up with violence all around them and internalize violence as an response to any violation of their pride/a way of self actualization. this is not me tryna excuse abusive behavior cause it’s fully our fault for not interrogating this relationship to violence (cont)

black men are like a broken mirror that’s glued together to look whole. we’re deeply fallible and unstable but we have this intense need to appear indestructible, and that complex comes with a thick sense of pride. we feel as if we do not exist unless we dominate someone

that pride is incredibly, incredibly dangerous and i think every black man has it + an impulse to defend that pride with aggression in some capacity. no matter how “conscious” or leftist or even “soft” you are. I have to check that shit all the time.

niggas can police that programming, treat it like a virus, interrogate it and unlearn it. But usually we just fully embrace that shit. Use it as a way of gaining power and abuse black women because they are who we project our insecurities and rage onto