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A little word on safety. Those who actively follow and engage with Daddy and I will know that one of my fave things is spankies, for many different reasons. But something came to light today. When Daddy playfully slapped my ass it wasnât a pleasurable sensation. I thought heâd
caught me too high, nearer my bone than the fatty squishy loveliness of my ass cheek. A quick âouchâ and âsorry babyâ and we carried on our day. At some point he slapped it again. Itâs not uncommon for us to have these playful reminders of who is in charge through the day. But...
it hurt in an unpleasant way again. Cue further investigation. No bruises were visible so I began a little pressing and feeling around. Bingo, it hurt to touch in a particular spot. Hmm...odd. Apart from a couple of slaps here & there, last Sunday was the last real spankies
session. So I pondered on this for a while. Last Sunday was INTENSE!! Probably the most intense ever....flogging got levelled up! It may be that a strike or two has bruised deeper than just the surface. Am I injured..debatable. I guess in the absolute definition yes I am. But
not so much as to attach negative associations to the âinjuryâ or session. Even the (worst ever) sub drop in the days after donât carry any upset or distress. Why? Because of how this is dealt with. This is the safety aspect of what we do. Physically I will not be getting
intense spankies for a few days and absolutely zero in that area. This is imperative. As a sub you are not obliged to take any form of kinky fun. Especially if that fun is likely to lead to, or exacerbate, a condition, injury or negative emotion. Both you AND your Dom have a
responsibility to ease, slow or halt altogether any activity that isnât 100% in your best interests. Emotionally & mentally we will be ensuring that we are better prepared for a bad drop. This will mean planning our impact play on days when Daddy doesnât have to work a night
shift so Iâm not alone, having ice cream in the freezer, colouring books & crayons at the ready, eating and drinking (water) plenty beforehand so we are fully hydrated & get the carbs, proteins and nutrients we need. Keep in mind these sessions can expend a phenomenal amount of
energy. You wouldnât go to the gym for 2 hours on an empty stomach and with no water right? And again you are both equally and jointly responsible for making sure youâre fit, healthy and prepared to deal with both your session and the potential drop after. If there is any
chance youâre not absolutely in the right frame of mind, donât. It can result in physical, mental and/or emotional damage that can at best take away the positive effects of the session and at worst cause long term trauma/undo the good work youâve invested in your dynamic.
Itâs not easy. There is no âbest wayâ but my biggest advice to anyone still early in their impact play, research, learn, test, build up slowly and above all trust your body by listening to what it is telling you. It has an uncanny way of making sure you know when something
isnât right. An article I found really useful is here https://www.kinkly.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-impact-play/2/14389
If you arenât sure reach out to others in the community that know what theyâre doing. Equally Iâm always happy to talk through my own journey, experiences and what Iâve learned to anyone who needs it. Keep it fun, keep it consensual, keep it safe 
