People talk about the top shortage like it's a funny meme and not a real condition caused by trans girls mass opting to be as verbally and physically soft and passive as possible bc they're (understandably) afraid of being perceived as perverted predatory men for even breathing-

and how that results in basically every verse switch transbian I've known (all very few of them) feeling routinely burnt out from constantly having one sides sex where they're expected to meet everyone else's needs without ever having their own met.

And I get it. Verbalizing (or even knowing) what you want is hard. In the rare moments when I get to be the sub I'm terrible at it.

But being like "I dunno just use me" is rough. You know how you're afraid of making mistakes and seeming predatory? You're setting us up to fail.