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(1/7) After just about 18 months of being married, I’ve been reflecting a lot on cultural differences. And my conclusion is that you have to be ready to have your partner’s back when they interact with your side of the family...
(2/7) I married into a Tswana family, I’m a Pedi man from the rural Limpopo. Some of the “practices” considered respectful in my culture may be viewed differently in hers...
(3/7) Where I come from, when you walk into a place, you first sit down before you greet, especially when there are elders. Even if someone has to fetch a chair for you ko next door, you will wait & only greet once you are seated...
(4/7) On my wife’s side of our family it’s different, when you walk into a place, you greet immediately as you walk in. I’ve noticed, at the beginning with raised eyebrows, a “Dumelang bagolo” as we walk in...
(5/7) It’s rude for them to just start talking before you greet, so you’d greet as you walk in.
When I walk in, my default setting is to first find a seat before I greet, which may be frowned upon if these differences are not embraced...
When I walk in, my default setting is to first find a seat before I greet, which may be frowned upon if these differences are not embraced...
(6/7) And similarly, when my wife walks into my side of our family and greets while walking in, they may view this as I’ll-mannered, “O ska bolela le batho ba bagolo o eme ka maoto”...
(7/7) My point is, if you’re going to marry (or any other acceptable term) into a different culture, you have to be ready to defend your partner, and both of you should have a mind willing to learn, to avoid unnecessary tensions...
Okay I’m done!
Okay I’m done!
