the worst intracommunity lgbt discourse is the kind were we go"[this thing] is why cishets dont treat us with respect" and place responsibility on ourselves to act more "repsectable" in hopes they treat us well instead of confronting them on their homophobia or transphobia :-/
they blame the 'weird' gays for why they cant bring themselves to treat you with respect so you end up fighting them instead of challenging them on why they feel that way. bro, they dont like either of us

also tired of hearing this said by "well meaning" cishets too. it isnt nearly as helpful as you think it is to basically go "have u considered not being weird so they dont target you?"; their contempt for us shouldnt be our problem to solve. let it be their problem for once.