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BANBOO
-3 times stinger than timber
-has greater tensile strength than steel
-flexible and resistant to cracks
-strongly rooted
Be like bamboo...
A thread on resilience
-3 times stinger than timber
-has greater tensile strength than steel
-flexible and resistant to cracks
-strongly rooted
Be like bamboo...
A thread on resilience
The good news: it is a skill that can be learned!
Let's get started!
Let's get started!
What is resilience?
The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.
A toughness.
The ability to recoil or spring back into shape after bending
Takes the ability to manifest adaptive positive coping strategies to minimize stress or distress
The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.
A toughness.
The ability to recoil or spring back into shape after bending
Takes the ability to manifest adaptive positive coping strategies to minimize stress or distress
Let's look at a few situations that may affect resilience or when it would be helpful...
Burnout (not just stress)
Being physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time
Exhaustion
Irritability
Cynicism and detachment
Physical complaints
Depression
Feeling omnipotence
Minimizing and denial of feelings
Can spill over into personal life
Being physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time
Exhaustion
Irritability
Cynicism and detachment
Physical complaints
Depression
Feeling omnipotence
Minimizing and denial of feelings
Can spill over into personal life
Moral injury
Situations you enter with altruistic ideas about helping people
But when it's not quite what you expected and are not able to help in the way you feel/know you should
When you experience something in your job that shakes you too the core
Situations you enter with altruistic ideas about helping people
But when it's not quite what you expected and are not able to help in the way you feel/know you should
When you experience something in your job that shakes you too the core
Vicarious trauma
Profound shift in your worldview after experiencing trauma through someone else's eyes
Profound shift in your worldview after experiencing trauma through someone else's eyes
Self reflection is the key to start building resilience
Does any of the above sound like something you may be experiencing?
Is your life outside of work or the hustle being affected?
Do you still have the energy you need for yourself and/or your family?
Does any of the above sound like something you may be experiencing?
Is your life outside of work or the hustle being affected?
Do you still have the energy you need for yourself and/or your family?
Personality traits
PERFECTIONIST
Do you loose patients if someone is not a quick learner?
Have a reputation for being hard to please?
Do you get upset when things don't go as planned or when things are not exactly right?
It's related to control.
PERFECTIONIST
Do you loose patients if someone is not a quick learner?
Have a reputation for being hard to please?
Do you get upset when things don't go as planned or when things are not exactly right?
It's related to control.
The way forward:
-Make mistakes! It's okay, I promise
-Remind yourself of your success, not your mistakes
(This thread aint perfect
, how I would really want it to be, and I could work in it for years, but regardless the message would not change)
-Make mistakes! It's okay, I promise
-Remind yourself of your success, not your mistakes
(This thread aint perfect
, how I would really want it to be, and I could work in it for years, but regardless the message would not change)
OVERCARING
Do you care what you do in you job more than your family?
Can be from personal unreconciled grief
Or This can be socially learned trait
Often wonder "did I do enough?" Or "did I do it right?"
The way forward: assess your personal boundaries
Do you care what you do in you job more than your family?
Can be from personal unreconciled grief
Or This can be socially learned trait
Often wonder "did I do enough?" Or "did I do it right?"
The way forward: assess your personal boundaries
Pause for self reflection
Does any of the above sound familiar?
What are your motivations for choosing what you do?
What do you like most and least about what you do?
Where are your boundaries and where are the places you might have boundary violations
Does any of the above sound familiar?
What are your motivations for choosing what you do?
What do you like most and least about what you do?
Where are your boundaries and where are the places you might have boundary violations
We also have some values ingrained in our minds that often live in our unconscious brain
MARTYR
No personal boundaries.
Over dedicating yourself to work or alternative incomes taking away from you or your families time
MARTYR
No personal boundaries.
Over dedicating yourself to work or alternative incomes taking away from you or your families time
BE AVAILABLE ALL THE TIME
The danger is that too much energy will be directed out and possibly lose touch with your inner self
Your effectiveness can become diluted
The danger is that too much energy will be directed out and possibly lose touch with your inner self
Your effectiveness can become diluted
IF YOU ARE RESTING YOU ARE LAZY
Can be confused with productivity
However, you are often are spinning your wheels
Can be confused with productivity
However, you are often are spinning your wheels
NO PAIN, NO GAIN
This may work for exercise, but in work/hustle life, the bucket of sweat can be depleting the energy that we have for ourselves
It is easy to overstate the value of hard work at the detriment of health and wellness
This may work for exercise, but in work/hustle life, the bucket of sweat can be depleting the energy that we have for ourselves
It is easy to overstate the value of hard work at the detriment of health and wellness
Pause for self reflection
Do you identify with any of the above?
How expensive are those secondary gains?
How do you cope with stress?
How do you recognize a lost sense of perspective?
Do you identify with any of the above?
How expensive are those secondary gains?
How do you cope with stress?
How do you recognize a lost sense of perspective?
The way forward
Learn to consciously hear these unconscious messages.
Can you turn these messages off or turn the volume down?
This takes intentional practicing once you are able to recognize when you might be telling yourself these things
Learn to consciously hear these unconscious messages.
Can you turn these messages off or turn the volume down?
This takes intentional practicing once you are able to recognize when you might be telling yourself these things
*Disclaimer
Everyone has a different amount of energy and can handle different amounts of work or activity.
Some people can work like crazy and come home with the energy to take the dogs for a walk, do dishes ect, others don't.
And that's okay, we are all individuals.
Everyone has a different amount of energy and can handle different amounts of work or activity.
Some people can work like crazy and come home with the energy to take the dogs for a walk, do dishes ect, others don't.
And that's okay, we are all individuals.
THE CRECENDO EFFECT
When something happens repeatedly that violates one of your core values
Moral residue builds up, so that by the xth time that it happens, your emotional reaction is more exaggerated
The first time someone steels your tweet vs the 5th time
When something happens repeatedly that violates one of your core values
Moral residue builds up, so that by the xth time that it happens, your emotional reaction is more exaggerated
The first time someone steels your tweet vs the 5th time
What are your "hooks" that might be causing a crecendo effect?
The emotional turmoil can zap you energy and your creativity
The way forward:
Debrief with a good friend
Take a step back and recognize the emotional toil that it can cause is not worth allowing it to consume you
The emotional turmoil can zap you energy and your creativity
The way forward:
Debrief with a good friend
Take a step back and recognize the emotional toil that it can cause is not worth allowing it to consume you
Create your own self care protocol to build RESILIENCE
What do you already have in place?
What are large and small things you treasure?
How do you show appreciation for what you are grateful for?
What does your internal and external recoveries look like?
What do you already have in place?
What are large and small things you treasure?
How do you show appreciation for what you are grateful for?
What does your internal and external recoveries look like?
Change what you can
Expectations
Communication
Responding positively
Personal and professional boundaries
Finding what works for you
Rituals at work and home - ask me about the condom ritual
ExpectationsCommunicationResponding positivelyPersonal and professional boundariesFinding what works for youRituals at work and home - ask me about the condom ritual
And of course
PRACTICE GRATITUDE
There are many studies that have shown the health benefits of gratitude (both physical and mental)
More on that later!!
Thank you for reading!!!
PRACTICE GRATITUDEThere are many studies that have shown the health benefits of gratitude (both physical and mental)
More on that later!!
Thank you for reading!!!
For more inspiration:
@MindsetJSD
@Th3Brainiac
@intellectiveidt
@WizStrat
all have more awesome mind tricks to build RESILIENCE
@_JohnBradshaw
is a self reflection guru
@MindsetJSD
@Th3Brainiac
@intellectiveidt
@WizStrat
all have more awesome mind tricks to build RESILIENCE
@_JohnBradshaw
is a self reflection guru
Did you all catch the spelling mistakes??
This post wasn't perfect, but did it make the point?
This post wasn't perfect, but did it make the point?
Anyone else out there with awesome brain hacks? I know I missed a few!!
