A lot of @‘s/DMs on this and most it from people who:
a) think there’s nothing wrong here or
b) don’t understand what else to do.
Either way it seems an educational issue so lemme break it down. https://twitter.com/sadiq_ayy/status/1292128131286028288
a) think there’s nothing wrong here or
b) don’t understand what else to do.
Either way it seems an educational issue so lemme break it down. https://twitter.com/sadiq_ayy/status/1292128131286028288
1/ Being able to find an active mentor/sponsor (keyword ‘active’) is like a needle in haystack. You can talk to loads of people but for essentially a stranger to vouch for you isn’t something to take lightly.
2/ I’ve been/still am on both sides of this and it’s clear everyone looks for a good mentor but we aren’t taught how to be a good mentee, and that’s not your mentors job either.
3/ It’s not enough to reach out for help, get help and get on with your day. Establishing relationships take time and some don’t benefit you till much later. You can’t be impatient with this.
4/ Using my previous example (one that others have done well hence the comparison): speak to them once a month, let them know how you’re doing, rejection or success, setup recurring coffee chats, get to know their life outside the office, always be grateful.
5/ Once a personal connection is made, you’ll see the difference in how they look out for you and why some mentees of mine are now friends that I support as any other, some are now colleagues and even competitors

6/ Also, please understand that a network isn’t just there to open one door. They can support you throughout your career so not following through after a win can cost you (as it has for me in the past).
7/ Note: as many of you know, jobs get filled through networks first before they go public. I’ve had 4 jobs at my firm and none of them were advertised, literally all through recommendation. It’s vital!