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Ok so I will observe exactly one thing: The reason I think so many people keep fixating on all these Awkward Relationships is, imo, bc *modern society has largely reduced most day to day interaction to hierarchical or professional contexts*
We rarely interact freely as equals.
We rarely interact freely as equals.
Most of your day you're with coworkers with whom you may have hierarchical power imbalances.
Mentors and teachers, likewise - a relatively intimate relationship but unbalanced.
Service workers & others you incidentally encounter - they're PERFORMING friendliness under obligation.
Mentors and teachers, likewise - a relatively intimate relationship but unbalanced.
Service workers & others you incidentally encounter - they're PERFORMING friendliness under obligation.
Most of our lives are taken up with interactions with people w/whom we nonetheless do not have an equal, uncomplicated relationship - requiring the awkward step of *seeking out* potential partners or friends in specialized events many of us may not have time or energy to attend.
This is something of a serious problem, and of course there's lots of pushing back against it, daydreaming about relationships emerging from the actual majority of our lives as adults - meet cutes at coffee shops, in offices, etc.
Which is honestly kind of to be expected!
Which is honestly kind of to be expected!
But ofc that's not really how the real world works - or at least, no matter how often it may individually work out, such contexts bear significant risks that make some relationships folks understandably romanticize morally fraught.
And ofc the way that men, in particular, are taught to address romance is really a problem here; we particularly romanticize the idea of a meet cute, a daily interaction - something that isn't the man *actively seeking out a romantic partner*, which registers to us as pathetic.
