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I've never interrogated anyone as to why they unfollowed/unfriended me.
I prefer unfriending to staying connected on social media in resentful connectedness.
I also respect where people are, what they gotta do at a specific time, and how people outgrow each other.
It's all good.
I prefer unfriending to staying connected on social media in resentful connectedness.
I also respect where people are, what they gotta do at a specific time, and how people outgrow each other.
It's all good.
I also never nag people for not calling me.
Or for not visiting me when they come to town.
If someone travels to my town, it's not their DUTY to visit me too. They've already traveled. *I* should visit if we are both interested. If it doesn't happen, there are many reasons why
Or for not visiting me when they come to town.
If someone travels to my town, it's not their DUTY to visit me too. They've already traveled. *I* should visit if we are both interested. If it doesn't happen, there are many reasons why
I'm from a culture where saying "You never call/visit!" is standard affectionate behavior.
I know it doesn't mean literally a complaint, but it can be burdensome and selfish. So I reject it in favor of "I love you, and whatever are able to do to connect."
I know it doesn't mean literally a complaint, but it can be burdensome and selfish. So I reject it in favor of "I love you, and whatever are able to do to connect."
People have expressed negative feelings like "why didn't you tell me you had cancer!"
I don't owe anyone info like that. I didn't even tell my parents when I had cancer, until I was in remission. (To protect them).
Not everything is about you. Respect the burdens people carry.
I don't owe anyone info like that. I didn't even tell my parents when I had cancer, until I was in remission. (To protect them).
Not everything is about you. Respect the burdens people carry.
And if you don't respect people's burdens, or think well enough of them, then maybe you don't need them in your life and they don't need you?
