If you can’t appreciate your thin or muscular body without publicly comparing it to fat bodies, you’re engaging in fatphobia. We all have the right to celebrate our bodies as they are, but what we say publicly about our own bodies impacts other people.

Fatphobia is much more than hurting fat people’s feelings. It’s perpetuating that common fear and disgust among thin and muscular people about the possibility of becoming fat. It’s why you see people have been willing to risk COVID, risk their lives, to get back to the gym.

As I’ve gained weight with age, with medication for a chronic condition, and due to genetics, I’m on a journey of unpacking /unlearning my own fatphobia. I’m not positioning myself as an authoritative voice on the issue.

Listen to fat people about fatphobia.

Lastly, not being fat is not a personality, doesn’t make you as desirable as you think, can change, etc. It would serve you to invest in being a better person.