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Since people are discoursin' so much, it's time for an important lesson: the split attraction model was created by and for ace/aro people exclusively. It is not about having "separate romantic and sexual orientations" but rather was intended to give ace/aro people language to +
describe their attractions. "Biromantic asexual" (how I used to identify) is not a distinct orientation from bisexuality, but rather a way to express how asexuality modifies the experience of being bisexual. This is why "biromantic heterosexual" for instance doesn't make sense. +
That is combining two different orientations, not modifying a sexual orientation with the experience of also being ace/aro and, frankly, is impossible. People who claim that is their experience are using fancy language to hide that they're in denial about their true sexuality. +
Finally, while as someone who used to identify as ace I do understand the utility of the SAM for ace/aro people, the language of it HAS led to some misunderstandings about terminology for different orientations. It leads to people assuming that the -sexual suffix refers only to +
sexual attraction. I really shouldn't have to explain why reducing labels like bisexual and homosexual to being "just about sex" is harmful, since it's also not accurate. The terms were originally to pathologize our orientations, yes, (and homosexual still is sometimes) but +
they are simply words to describe the experience of attraction. The -sexual part coming from outdated "sex = gender" ideas, NOT from being about sex.
In conclusion, the split attraction model is for describing ace/aro experience only, and the -sexual suffix isn't just about sex.
In conclusion, the split attraction model is for describing ace/aro experience only, and the -sexual suffix isn't just about sex.
Somewhat related, I'm gonna bring back my thread explaining what "bisexual" really means and why it inherently includes attraction to all genders https://twitter.com/YourGirlRatBaby/status/1136446332493881344
Just want to add a couple things to this:
1) While I have since realized I’m not ace (maybe acespec but unsure), I identified as such for nearly a decade so I’m saying this as someone very familiar with ace/aro terminology
2) “Allosexual” is not a good term for non-ace/aro people
1) While I have since realized I’m not ace (maybe acespec but unsure), I identified as such for nearly a decade so I’m saying this as someone very familiar with ace/aro terminology
2) “Allosexual” is not a good term for non-ace/aro people
Like seriously please stop saying “allosexual/alloromantic”, I’ve heard it’s a homophobic slur in some languages (can’t confirm though) and also allo- means “other” and calling non-ace/aro LGBT people “other” while grouping them with cishets isn’t cool
