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the reclaimation of the d slur - why only lesbians are allowed to say it
now this is made by a black lesbian so i want you to know something before we start, comparing the reclaimation of the d slur to the n word is important and not invalid. the only black people that will tell you otherwise are non lesbian sapphics who want to say the d slur or-
uneducated pick me black lesbians who don’t know the history behind it. also please don’t use the words “girl” or “girlie” on me. now let’s get started.
the slur “dyke” comes from the slur “bulldyke” in the mid-19th century. it was a kind of hybrid between misogyny and homophobia. lesbians were targeted for their lack of attraction towards men and their “manliness”, even if they weren’t masc, due to them being attracted to women.
now it’s true the term lesbian used to be what we call sapphic now. the problem is that now lesbian doesn’t mean sapphic at all anymore, if you like a man you aren’t a lesbian. we can all agree that we have worked really hard as a community to get people to respect that-
there is a difference between sexualities. letting non lesbians say it now blends them back together again, and essentially puts us back in terms progress we’ve made.
“well i’ve been called so i can say it lmaoo stay mad”
i’m so sorry that happened to you and i get your pain i really do but that doesn’t mean you get to say it. think of (and here comes the example) the n word. if your anything other then black and you get called it that-
i’m so sorry that happened to you and i get your pain i really do but that doesn’t mean you get to say it. think of (and here comes the example) the n word. if your anything other then black and you get called it that-
doesn’t automatically mean you can say it. if your anything other then mexican and you get called the b slur you can’t start saying it. if you are not part of the group a slur is directed at and you get called it, you do not have some free pass to say it now.
it hurts i know and i’m sorry but you don’t get to say it. ever.
“well are you saying that bi men can’t say the f slur?”
no. i’m not mlm i cant speak on that. the mlm and wlw community have a lot in common but there are some crucial things that are different, for example the d slur and the f slur, they are not equivalent to eachother.
no. i’m not mlm i cant speak on that. the mlm and wlw community have a lot in common but there are some crucial things that are different, for example the d slur and the f slur, they are not equivalent to eachother.
media has tried to make it seem that way but there not. from what i’ve seen and heard from mlm themselves it seems that all of the mlm community has a right to say the f slur but it’s not the same for the
d slur.
d slur.
the d slur wasn’t just directed to women that loved women. it was directed to lesbians (not the sapphic term back then the modern term now) for completely turning male love and affection away.
this argument is really nothing more then a way to change the subject, an argument over the d slur isn’t an invitation to bring in the f slur. especially if you know your talking to someone who can’t speak on it. if your arguing with a lesbian about a lesbian slur why would-
you bring in a mlm slur to prove your point? it really does nothing but prove that you don’t have an argument.
“saying bi/pan women can’t say it is biphobic and panphobic”
no one said bi/pan people aren’t oppressed, no one is invalidating there experiences they just can’t say this slur. to put it simply, it’s lesphobic. it’s lesphobic to ignore all these lesbians telling you not to-
no one said bi/pan people aren’t oppressed, no one is invalidating there experiences they just can’t say this slur. to put it simply, it’s lesphobic. it’s lesphobic to ignore all these lesbians telling you not to-
do something and to trust ONE lesbian telling you that you can instead. having a slur isn’t a quirky fun thing. we aren’t excluding you because this isn’t a club. it’s never exlclusion not letting non lesbians in lesbian spaces but this isn’t even that. this is a slur you can’t-
reclaim. so no this isn’t biphobia this isn’t panphobia and this isn’t excluding or being mean to non lesbian sapphics. also the the “dyke pass” doesn’t exist simple.
this is the end of the thread please again do not use the words girl or girlie on me i’m ok with pretty much everything else.
sources -
i used this for history on the word -
https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/06/01/is-the-word-dyke-offensive/
as well as this - https://medium.com/th-ink/dyke-82d7e1db3498
i used this carrd as a reference to modern issues it has sources in it - http://dontsaydyke.carrd.co
i used this for history on the word -
https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/06/01/is-the-word-dyke-offensive/
as well as this - https://medium.com/th-ink/dyke-82d7e1db3498
i used this carrd as a reference to modern issues it has sources in it - http://dontsaydyke.carrd.co
other important sites -
all the shitty parts of the dance community - http://dancecommunity.carrd.co
neopronouns - https://neopronoun.carrd.co/
xenogenders - http://xenogenders.carrd.co
all the shitty parts of the dance community - http://dancecommunity.carrd.co
neopronouns - https://neopronoun.carrd.co/
xenogenders - http://xenogenders.carrd.co
