random unorganized thoughts cw: the "shaming those known to be friends with abusers" tactic on twt is a complicated issue for me?

i know people who are still unquestioningly friends with those i know to be abusive or have really ableist/racist ideas, and who defend those actions

or ideas without thinking critically about them, and thats certainly not okay.

but i also know people who are friends with those who i know to be toxic/abusive and i trust to hold those people accountable, and who i know *are* holding those people accountable? i know people who

have those kinds of people in their social circles and actively have conversations about their ideas/actions and work to help those people understand why those things are wrong and hold them accountable when they cause harm.

and like... that's important? i mean, a toxic or

abusive person isn't going to become less toxic without a support system. the line between someone being their support system and someone supporting them in toxic actions is where people get tripped up, i think; plenty of people see them as one and the same. and it's a thin line.

i don't have a clean way to wrap this up, but honestly i'm inclined to stay friends with people who are friends with toxic folks if i know they're holding them accountable, and i'm inclined to stay wary if they're unquestioningly supporting shitty ideas/behaviors.