At first "oneitis" sounds like a "many fish in the sea" axiom, but it's not

It's a dangerous (sometimes deadly) psychological condition effecting men, resulting from cultural conditioning

It has us believing that what we need can only be attained through one person

And while that is ideal, its not true

Believing this often makes us compromise ourselves (give away our power) to a woman (submit to her) so that she won't take away that sweet sweet validation we feel we "need"

Tragically, this seals the fate of the relationship

The more needy you become, the more she pulls away

Working "oneitis" our of your mental model takes unpacking DECADES of conditioning

It means letting go of one ring to grab another, and dealing with the feeling of being between

If you can LOVE the space between the rings, being fully comfortable with who you are and able to provide for yourself what you need (especially emotionally), then the next ring will be special

And because it feels special, AGAIN you'll feel the need to protect it

Resist that