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My marriage was a disaster & on brink of divorce couple years ago
these things saved us & set R marriage on
Every1’s situation is unique
but hopefully u can takeaway something from these
Many I learned & applied from people I respect from here on Twitter
My marriage was a disaster & on brink of divorce couple years ago
these things saved us & set R marriage on
Every1’s situation is unique
but hopefully u can takeaway something from these
Many I learned & applied from people I respect from here on Twitter
1) We quit “watching a show” every nite N bed
Sitting N silence watching a show every night is a crappy excuse 2 connect
We gave up cable Netflix HBO GO
If we watch something together now we are learning something 2gether
We are interacting & communicating
N bedroom
Sitting N silence watching a show every night is a crappy excuse 2 connect
We gave up cable Netflix HBO GO
If we watch something together now we are learning something 2gether
We are interacting & communicating
N bedroom
2) I took extreme ownership
I read @jockowillink
& applied the lessons 2 my marriage
She’s not doing something I like then it’s on me to communicate better
Every aspect of R relationship is on me
0 excuses ever
All comes down 2 being a BOY vs being a MAN & taking ownership
I read @jockowillink
& applied the lessons 2 my marriageShe’s not doing something I like then it’s on me to communicate better
Every aspect of R relationship is on me
0 excuses ever
All comes down 2 being a BOY vs being a MAN & taking ownership
3) Must give credit 2 @FitFounder on this 1:
Create a family vision board
openly talk about shared goals & dreams
share victories & setbacks everyday & make this a normal part of conversation
take
& measure success
Win 2gether & grow closer!
Create a family vision boardopenly talk about shared goals & dreamsshare victories & setbacks everyday & make this a normal part of conversationtake& measure successWin 2gether & grow closer!
4)We saw a great counselor & got professional help & tips from an expert
It was critical having a mediator that helped us break thru & get out of R own way
We got in2 ruts & what we now refer 2 as the crazy cycle
she helped us identify those & defeat them b4 they spiraled.
It was critical having a mediator that helped us break thru & get out of R own way
We got in2 ruts & what we now refer 2 as the crazy cycle
she helped us identify those & defeat them b4 they spiraled.
5) modeling the behaviors I desire
@limitlessleila said
“ur better off not even preaching behaviors if u won’t live them out”
This challenged me so much
I can’t ask my wife 2 do things I’m not doing
putting her 1st 100% of the time
never complaining
intentional listening
@limitlessleila said
“ur better off not even preaching behaviors if u won’t live them out”
This challenged me so much
I can’t ask my wife 2 do things I’m not doing
putting her 1st 100% of the timenever complainingintentional listening
6) Have ur own space & activities apart
We give each other time away 2 refill & recharge
A guys nite out or girls weekend is always welcomed & accepted w/no guilt
We see friends & take at least a trip a year apart
Absence makes the
grow fonder & we always come back recharged
We give each other time away 2 refill & recharge
A guys nite out or girls weekend is always welcomed & accepted w/no guilt
We see friends & take at least a trip a year apart
Absence makes the
grow fonder & we always come back recharged
7)keep family & friends out of disagreements
This was a big problem
We would disagree & she would call her mom & get validated
while simultaneously I called mine & got the same(Don’t do this men!)
If we have problems(obv still do)we communicate with each other & keep it N
This was a big problem
We would disagree & she would call her mom & get validated
while simultaneously I called mine & got the same(Don’t do this men!)
If we have problems(obv still do)we communicate with each other & keep it N
8)Men only: listen & validate don’t fix!
R instincts when she’s sharing a struggle is
1) fix
2) get defensive
she’s not wanting us 2 fix
this is her way of connecting & sharing life
listen & validate & let her know u care instead of quickly responding 2 do this 2 fix it!
R instincts when she’s sharing a struggle is
1) fix
2) get defensive
she’s not wanting us 2 fix
this is her way of connecting & sharing life
listen & validate & let her know u care instead of quickly responding 2 do this 2 fix it!
9)B adventurous & playful
I’ll share a tame 1 here use ur imagination 4 others:)
we take R rings off on nites out & after I drop her at the
I’ll meet her at the bar and pick her up
she enjoys being pursued like when we were dating
Its led 2 many different fun scenarios
I’ll share a tame 1 here use ur imagination 4 others:)
we take R rings off on nites out & after I drop her at the
I’ll meet her at the bar and pick her upshe enjoys being pursued like when we were dating
Its led 2 many different fun scenarios
10)mandatory date Nights w/ no kids
Have fun together
laugh go out & be silly
at home it can get so monotonous..
did u pack lunches
get laundry done
I took the trash out etc etc
once a month at least we hire sitters and go out 4 a fun adult only date night
Nights w/ no kidsHave fun together
laugh go out & be silly
at home it can get so monotonous..
did u pack lunches
get laundry done
I took the trash out etc etc
once a month at least we hire sitters and go out 4 a fun adult only date night
11)Quit porn 100%
I always justified it as
Stress reliever
Not a big deal
BUT
I knew deep down it was harmful 2 my marriage
Porn is cheap dopamine & the equivalent of eating unhealthy fast food
Be that honorable Man U want 2 b even when no1 is around & watch urlife soar
I always justified it as
Stress reliever
Not a big deal
BUT
I knew deep down it was harmful 2 my marriage
Porn is cheap dopamine & the equivalent of eating unhealthy fast food
Be that honorable Man U want 2 b even when no1 is around & watch ur
life soar
12) Connect w/ fun activities that fill us up
Take long
2gether
read & study interesting topics 2gether
& 
currently doing a plank challenge 2gether!
read 2 our daughter 2gether nearly every night & watch the sunset as a family
Choose 2 Intentionally connect everyday!
Take long
2getherread & study interesting topics 2gether
& currently doing a plank challenge 2gether!
read 2 our daughter 2gether nearly every night & watch the sunset as a family
Choose 2 Intentionally connect everyday!
If u have others drop them in the comments
Having a connected Marriage & spouse on ur team that supports u is the biggest life hack!
Mathew 19:6
They R no longer 2, but 1 flesh
What God has joined together, let no1 separate
Thx 4 reading
Having a connected Marriage & spouse on ur team that supports u is the biggest life hack!
Mathew 19:6
They R no longer 2, but 1 flesh
What God has joined together, let no1 separate
Thx 4 reading
