On learning how to accept and adapt to challenges and changes in the world or in your life - please take the time to search yourself.

Are you afraid of change? Metathesiophobia

Are you afraid of success?
Jonah Complex or Achievemephobia

Are you afraid of failure?
Atychiphobia
1. Jonah Complex (Achievemephobia)

You feel guilty about any success you have, no matter how small, because your friends, family, or co-workers haven't had the same success.

You don't tell others about your accomplishments.
You avoid or procrastinate  on big projects, especially projects that could lead to recognition.

You frequently compromise  your own goals or agenda to avoid conflict in a group, or even conflict within your family.
You self-sabotage  your work or dreams by convincing yourself that you're not good enough to achieve them.

You feel, subconsciously, that you don't deserve to enjoy success in your life.

Refusal/dislike of setting goals

Conveniently “forgetting deadlines”
Laziness and lack of motivation to complete projects

Constantly second-guessing yourself

Avoidance of responsibility

Turning down good opportunities without a good reason.
Limiting yourself to jobs, projects, and relationships you’ve long outgrown

Sabotaging yourself when you’re on the brink of success (e.g. making excuses, calling in a “sick” day, excessive alcohol or drug use, closing down, negative self-talk, creating dramas, etc.).
You believe that if you do achieve success, you won't be able to sustain it. Eventually you'll fail, and end up back in a worse place than where you started. So you think, "why bother?"

The next question is how to overcome fear of success🤔.
Success involves lots and lots of risks – which, people are not willing to take.

Success involves sacrifices – which, people don’t accept very easily.

Success involves disappointments – people fear most.

Success involves hard work – people tend to be uncomfortable with.
How to overcome fear of success:

✅Enjoy the Journey Instead of Obsessing Over the End Result

✅Decide What Success Means to You

✅Develop a List of Possible Upcoming Setbacks

✅Decide and Plan Your Long-Term Path to Success

✅Visualize Your Success and List Your Outcomes
✅Understand that success is one step at a time

✅Be prepared and take failure into consideration

✅Associate and learn from the right people

✅Choose to think about the rewards and the goals

✅Understand that you create your own success… or failure

✅Be kind to yourself
B. Fear of Failure
✅You tend to fall apart when things start going south

✅You hesitate to try new things

✅You’re settling for less than you deserve

✅You tend to judge other people based on their success or failure

✅You make excuses

✅Lack of confidence

✅Perfectionism
How to overcome fear of failure:

✅Acknowledge that you failed in doing something.

✅Develop positive thinking as part of your everyday lifestyle.

✅Every time you fail in doing something, be it an examination or an activity that you attempted, try and put in more effort.
✅Talk it Out - Talking about your emotions can help you get over the trauma quickly and also aid in building confidence that can ultimately help you overcome the fear associated with it.

✅Create a mental picture where you overcome that fear and achieve what you fear the most.
✅Welcome failure - Failures teach us what we shouldn’t do and what we can do that’s better. You just have to learn a different mindset when it comes to this dread of failure.

✅Keep things simple

✅Be in the present moment.
C. Fear of Change

One easy way to notice when this fear of the unknown is happening is when you find yourself playing the “what if?” worrying game.
• What if I make a mistake?
• What if it’s worse than what I have now?
• What if I fail?
Signs that you are dealing with fear of change:

✅Isolate Yourself and Agonize Over Decisions

✅Fear of the Unknown

✅Forget That You Always Have Options

✅You focus too much on the External World

✅Handcuff Yourself to Stuff - You start to fear losing something if you take
✅Self-doubt

✅Fear of leaving a comfort zone

✅Fear of upsetting others (you are trapped in that web of pleasing others in a very unheslthy way).

✅You start to fear losing something if you take

✅Sense of Guilt

✅You muzzle yourself

✅Struggle to make decisions
How to overcome Fear of Change

✅Ask Yourself: What Are You Afraid Of?

✅Identity the root of the fear. Do a RCA as a problem-solving tool

✅Create a Reward System

✅Stay in the Present - When you are in the present moment, you have nothing to be stressed or concerned about.
✅Research Your Transformation - embrace and enjoy the process, don't just focus on the results of your actions

✅Be compassionate to yourself

✅Minimize your risks (do a personal SWOT analysis to see weaknesses and threats in your life)

✅Pay Attention To Upcoming Change
Authetntic change involves these stages:

Denial
Resistance
Exploration
Anticipation
Regression
Breakthrough
Acceptance/Commitment
Consolidation

Remember to take things easy and enjoy the process and this journey called life.
Denial stage - You will first deny that change has arrived, even if you can read the signs boldly.

Resistance stage - Fighting or ignoring the change

Exploration stage - You look into the future by searching for new responsibilities.

Acceptance stage - Accepting the change
Anticipation - you anticipate the benefits & make your transformational plans.

Regression - things get worse before they get better.

Breakthrough - you finally see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.

Consolidation - make the change stronger to create more benefits.
Changing your mindset or behaviour includes:

✅ Comfortable Ignorance
I don’t even know I have a problem.
✅Awareness Without Change
✅Effortful Change
✅The Consolidation -
I’ve stopped my bad habits for so long that I don’t even think about it.
When it comes to identifying, embracing and adapting to change, you should:

Rethink your behaviours

Analyze yourself and your actions

Assess risks of current behavior

Weigh pros and cons of behavior change

Confirm readiness and ability to change

Identify barriers to change
Write down your goals

Prepare a plan of action

Make a list of motivating statements

Identify triggers that lead to relapse

Recognize barriers to success

Reaffirm your goal and commitment to change

Reward your successes

Seek out social support
May you receive the courage & drive to DO things for yourself without guilt and shame.

Learn
Unlearn
Adapt to change
Be flexible
Be kind to yourself
Reward yourself
Protect your mind
Protect your peace
Make sure you grow (healthy growth in your life).

Peace🌱🕊
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