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so ok here’s a way that privileged people insist that they be centred:
gaslighting marginalized people w/ ‘that comment wasn’t offensive’ often paired w/ ‘i know the commenter is a good person’
so again, for the umpteenth time:
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gaslighting marginalized people w/ ‘that comment wasn’t offensive’ often paired w/ ‘i know the commenter is a good person’
so again, for the umpteenth time:
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THE FOLX BEING MALIGNED ARE THE ONLY FOLX WHO GET TO DETERMINE IF THEY’VE BEEN MALIGNED
NOT COMPLICIT BYSTANDER
NOT IGNORANT IGNORER
NOT ANYONE ELSE
CERTAINLY NOT KAREN
+ not all in that marginalized group will agree bc MARGINALIZED FOLX ARE NOT A MONOLITH
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NOT COMPLICIT BYSTANDER
NOT IGNORANT IGNORER
NOT ANYONE ELSE
CERTAINLY NOT KAREN
+ not all in that marginalized group will agree bc MARGINALIZED FOLX ARE NOT A MONOLITH
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but some will still wilfully not understand bc they regularly dehumanize Others so for those sad many:
imagine a person joked abt your hair or makeup. you know you were the butt of that joke. you asked for an apology.
HOWEVER people in the vicinity said it wasn’t offensive +
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imagine a person joked abt your hair or makeup. you know you were the butt of that joke. you asked for an apology.
HOWEVER people in the vicinity said it wasn’t offensive +
3/
you didnt hear what you know you heard. also you’re oppressing a very nice person so stop being politically-correct.
congrats you’ve just been:
gaslit
accused of attacking when you asked for decent treatment
dog-whistled to distract from your legit feelings
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congrats you’ve just been:
gaslitaccused of attacking when you asked for decent treatmentdog-whistled to distract from your legit feelings4/
if realization of my point has now dawned—welcome to the entry point to the world of Empathy!
you and you alone are responsible for your baggage but as you travel & explore this strange new land, you may encounter generous folx willing to aid in lightening that load
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you and you alone are responsible for your baggage but as you travel & explore this strange new land, you may encounter generous folx willing to aid in lightening that load
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if however you cling to your privileged self-centring & continue to gaslight others + defend the indefensible, then my fond wishes that all the folx around you whom you harm w/ your wilful ignorance & blithe disregard leave your orbit as soon as possible to find much better
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