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i’ve been re-examining experiences i previously thought were simply “bad sex” and felt were my fault. i now realize that wasn’t the case, and that even if i didn’t scream or fight, i did say “no” and express displeasure in plenty of other ways.

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i know that i am not alone in this. there are plenty of ways to say “no,” to change your mind, to say you don’t like something, and many people abuse the vulnerability of the circumstances and of relationship power dynamics to ignore us.

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it’s a hard thing to heal from, and i really don’t have answers. but you’re not alone if you’ve experienced this, and you’re not alone if you know it’s not your fault in your head but can’t get the feeling to settle in your heart.

discussing boundaries and sex is important for everyone, but can be esp crucial for those with past trauma. here’s a really great piece @erinisaway wrote for me at @Allure_magazine: https://www.allure.com/story/how-to-make-sexual-boundaries

corinne kai (who isn’t on twitter but is a great writer and sex educator) wrote about a great way to discuss sexual boundaries: a yes/no/maybe list. read their piece here: https://www.allure.com/story/discuss-sexual-boundaries-sex-educator