Also lads, what’s your take on Lobola?

What’s the “max” you’re willing to pay?

& also, me as a groom. What exactly am I paying for??

I reckon personal, lobola shouldn’t even be about how much you pay.

From my understanding of what lobola is or what it was? It was tool used to bring 2 families together, never some sort of sale of bride to the groom’s family

Hear me out, what it’s meant to do is keep the groom’s family coming to the braids family, so the 2 families become one? With time spent, emotions grow.

E.g, the groom’s family is supposed to negotiate a price, be it a R1000 & so sort of payment plan, of R1 every 2 months.

It isn’t about the money, but that every single time we bring that “R1” we have some sort of gathering as the 2 families, becoming one, innit?

& when we come to said gather, we always come baring gifts innit??

Not this thing of saying we want 100k, we lay it off same time then it’s chai?? Nah

I reckon another thing often taken for granted, when you marry into a family you become one. They’ll be problems & you’ll be expected to help innit?

Now you guys charged me 300k for lobola & you’re still gon need help?? Aowa, surely I’ve played my part?

Also for you lads who are gon say I’m paying & compensating the bride’s family for raising you. Kanti am I an orphan? Le nna people raised me?