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A thread on consent and boundaries, and how these are overlooked in much of the sex-positive trans community; 1/?
I like sex. No, I love sex. I enjoy having sex. But you know what I don't love? People making assumptions of me.
I like sex. No, I love sex. I enjoy having sex. But you know what I don't love? People making assumptions of me.
Now, as I said, I love sex. I love having intimate, animalistic, platonic and casual sex, with lots of people.
Stop.
If you're uncomfortable after reading this, you probably suffer from anxiety over listening to others talk about their love/sex lives. 2/?
Stop. If you're uncomfortable after reading this, you probably suffer from anxiety over listening to others talk about their love/sex lives. 2/?
Wether that's because you have jealousy issues, acute FOMO, you're ace, or you're like me and your upbringing is psychologist gold - that's for you to know.
If you read me describing sex and are now either excited, curious, or not phased - THIS THREAD IS FOR YOU. 3/?
If you read me describing sex and are now either excited, curious, or not phased - THIS THREAD IS FOR YOU. 3/?
Look, I get it. You were either raised in a progressive family, or recently had a sexual awakening, or whatever. But you must, MUST ask before talking to people about your sex life. ESPECIALLY if you are trans or otherwise queer.
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Sex positivity is a wonderful thing, and if you're a sex worker then being horny is part of your job. But not everyone wants to hear about it. I often get multiple people across multiple platforms telling me, out of the blue, about their sex or their partner's sex. 5/?
This is gross. Not only do I barely know you, but I have no interest in what you get up to in the bedroom. Are you gonna tell me the consistency of your stool, next? Cuz shockingly I don't wanna know that either. 6/?
Due to me being trans, sex-positive, and regularly thirsty on the internet, trans people assume that I'm hella kinky and want to hear about their exploits, which I do not. My one conversational boundary is not wanting to hear about your sex life. Keep it to yourself, please. 7/?
before you call me a prude, trust me, I am one of the hornier people you'll meet. But I have a boundary, and regardless of whether you're trans or not, you must respect that boundary. By crossing it, you demonstrate your lack of respect for me, and I won't want to talk to you.8/?
As a general rule, don't discuss your sex life with someone you wouldn't discuss your stool with.
I don't want to hear about your shit, or what you got up to with your partner over the weekend, thanks.
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I don't want to hear about your shit, or what you got up to with your partner over the weekend, thanks.
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Addendum; I don't want to hear about your sex life even if we're friends. Actually, ESPECIALLY if we're friends. If we can't be friends without you talking about your hookups and kink weekends, I don't want to be your friend.
