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Apa yang paling penting dalam membuatkan kita feel attracted toward someone or in a group?
Jawapan simple, paras rupa seseorang
Jawapan tak simple, positive affective presence
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Jawapan simple, paras rupa seseorang
Jawapan tak simple, positive affective presence
Saya akan jelaskan dlm thread ni. Also, help me to retweet. Please & thanks!!!
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First, jawapan paling simple. Kita selalunya akan tertarik bila paras rupa sesorang tu memang preference kita. Memang type yg kita suka. Tapi this is only luaran. Attraction tu tak akan berpanjangan. Boleh je tengok yg lain, then berubah arah dah.
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So jawapan yg tak simple, yg membuatkan kita tertarik kat orang tu adalah bagaimana cara dia buat kita feel. Now, bila seseorang tu buat kita rasa gembira, optimistic, chill, tak stress, relax, then otak kita akan buat kita nak jumpa dgn dia lagi.
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We called it as positive affective presence. It concerns positive emotion yg orang tu hasilkan dlm diri orang lain. Sebab tu kita akan rasa nak jumpa lagi. Bukan saja kita feel good bila dgn orang tu, tapi juga sebab we associate positive emotion with the person
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Kenapa positive affective presence lebih penting dari paras rupa?
Paras rupa is only temporary. Tapi positive affective presence is something long lasting. Bila org tu is not around, kita akan look forward to see the person sebab otak kita rindu nak feel good
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Paras rupa is only temporary. Tapi positive affective presence is something long lasting. Bila org tu is not around, kita akan look forward to see the person sebab otak kita rindu nak feel good
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But keep in mind that this is all statistics and probability. Everyone is unique. But by focusing on positive affective presence, kita akan mempunyai higher chances in getting someone feel more attracted to us.
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Psychopath or manipulator, mereka ni typically memang pakar in making people feel good. Mereka ni charming. We also hear people being in relationship with them, tapi stuck and tak keluar2. Kekal juga dalam that relationship. So ada juga dark side of it
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The bad side of it, bila being used to manipulate others with bad outcome. So kita kena pastikan when we purposely use positive affective presence, it is for a good purpose with good outcome. Sama juga dgn negative affective presence. It can be either good or bad.
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Memang tak rugi if we can learn to consciously employ positive affective presence. So apa yang kita boleh buat untuk improve our positive affective presence? Saya nak tulis but thread ni dah panjang. So saya akan tweet satu lagi thread soon. Look forward to it!
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