Here are the top 10 actionable lessons I've learned from the world's most successful people by working on the @ProfileRead every week:

1. Be interesting, not perfect
Malcolm Gladwell says people are drawn to things that are done imperfectly. Whether it’s art, movies, or books, people talk more about the flawed things that get stuck in their head than they do the obvious, perfect things https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-malcolm-gladwell
Malcolm Gladwell says people are drawn to things that are done imperfectly. Whether it’s art, movies, or books, people talk more about the flawed things that get stuck in their head than they do the obvious, perfect things https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-malcolm-gladwell
2. Start from first principles
So many of us do things a certain way simply b/c that’s how they’ve always been done. Few ask, “Why?” @elonmusk says we need to think like a scientist and start with only the information you know to be scientific fact. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-elon-musk-the
So many of us do things a certain way simply b/c that’s how they’ve always been done. Few ask, “Why?” @elonmusk says we need to think like a scientist and start with only the information you know to be scientific fact. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-elon-musk-the
3. Be selective about the bets you make
One of the top mistakes poker players make is playing too many hands. Sometimes, making a decision is just as substantive as not making a decision because, well, they’re both decisions. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-annie-duke-the
One of the top mistakes poker players make is playing too many hands. Sometimes, making a decision is just as substantive as not making a decision because, well, they’re both decisions. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-annie-duke-the
4. Normalize your life
Shonda Rhimes says: “You don’t want a baby? Don’t have one. You want to love someone? Love someone. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.” Normalize your life. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-shonda-rhimes
Shonda Rhimes says: “You don’t want a baby? Don’t have one. You want to love someone? Love someone. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.” Normalize your life. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-shonda-rhimes
5. Mastering the “Late-Night FM DJ” voice
Chris Voss says 'The Late Night FM DJ' voice is declarative, soothing, & downward-inflecting that is applicable in nearly every situation. It creates an involuntary response of clearheadedness in both parties. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/chris-voss-the-fbi-hostage-negotiator
Chris Voss says 'The Late Night FM DJ' voice is declarative, soothing, & downward-inflecting that is applicable in nearly every situation. It creates an involuntary response of clearheadedness in both parties. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/chris-voss-the-fbi-hostage-negotiator
6. Find what obsesses you
Ira Glass has organized his life around what gives him pleasure. He enjoys every aspect of running a radio biz — editing, mixing, reporting, selling & budgeting. "The more challenging it gets, the more interesting it becomes." https://theprofile.substack.com/p/ira-glass-the-king-of-storytelling
Ira Glass has organized his life around what gives him pleasure. He enjoys every aspect of running a radio biz — editing, mixing, reporting, selling & budgeting. "The more challenging it gets, the more interesting it becomes." https://theprofile.substack.com/p/ira-glass-the-king-of-storytelling
7. Ask for what you want
Esther Perel says behind every criticism is a veiled wish. Rather than saying, “I’d like a cup of water,” you say, “Why did you take a cup for yourself and not me?” Rather than starting an argument, ask for what you want. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/esther-perel-the-relationship-guru
Esther Perel says behind every criticism is a veiled wish. Rather than saying, “I’d like a cup of water,” you say, “Why did you take a cup for yourself and not me?” Rather than starting an argument, ask for what you want. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/esther-perel-the-relationship-guru
8. Visualize a better reality
On death row, Anthony Ray Hinton figured out a technique that was able to get him out of his tragic circumstances: Daydreaming. “I never used my mind for garbage,” he says. “I used it to cope through some lonely days.” https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-anthony-ray-hinton
On death row, Anthony Ray Hinton figured out a technique that was able to get him out of his tragic circumstances: Daydreaming. “I never used my mind for garbage,” he says. “I used it to cope through some lonely days.” https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-anthony-ray-hinton
9. Do one thing every day that sucks
Amelia Boone enjoys running when it’s cold, dark, or raining. “It forces you to go through hard things in not-ideal conditions,” she says. Indirectly, that helps cultivate mental toughness in other areas of your life. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-pro-file-the-queen-of-pain
Amelia Boone enjoys running when it’s cold, dark, or raining. “It forces you to go through hard things in not-ideal conditions,” she says. Indirectly, that helps cultivate mental toughness in other areas of your life. https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-pro-file-the-queen-of-pain
10. Live by the 5-to-1 ratio
John Gottman says happy couples have 5 positive interactions to every negative interaction. “A smile, a head nod, even just grunting to show you’re listening.” This magic ratio enhances the positivity in any relationship https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-john-gottman
John Gottman says happy couples have 5 positive interactions to every negative interaction. “A smile, a head nod, even just grunting to show you’re listening.” This magic ratio enhances the positivity in any relationship https://theprofile.substack.com/p/the-profile-dossier-john-gottman