If not sexy, this at least sound, scary advice. Therapy’s preserved many of my important relationships, including my marriage. (I’m not alone.) In deep relationships, both people grow. Growth is different than attraction because it’s active. Attraction’s so much of a rush, most https://twitter.com/moorehn/status/1287950371260977153

of us want to carry it around in flask and swig some when we need it. In growth though, both people respect and accommodate changes *at different rates* to get beyond the inevitable repetitions.
Re: working out. If forced, physical workouts can be a set up for failure. But as a

metaphor for finding insights, it's useful. You can’t wish fitness into your body. It’s real, private work. It takes thoughtful repetition, not the destructive kind. You also find what's hard and work it out. A compatible coach (therapist) helps a lot. Just one guy's perspective.