Men, dating advice:

•Set a standard
•Don’t date down
•Find sexual compatibility
•Get as much as you give
•Do not be jealous
•Do not try to control her
•Do not suffer in silence
•Express your needs
•Keep a hobby
•Talk to her about her
•Help around the house
Your standard for a woman can be whatever you want it to be. It is your standard. If you keep it too loose it will set you up for failure, too tight and you will never find the ex-model who is 5’9, cooks like your mom, loves Cold War documentaries and collecting expired currency.
Many men date down because those are easy targets. Don’t, you might as well adopt a child. Find something in your tax bracket, or education level, or has similar goals. This is not easy to do but you will be happier in the long run. Dating down has nothing to do with looks.
Sexual compatibility is so important. When you first get with a woman she wants to duck all time. This is her primal instincts marking her territory. She letting you know you’re hers.

That tapers off eventually. See what her normal sex scheduled is like. Talk about it.
Sexual compatibility is important. If you want to have sex more that she does, you’re either going to cheat or feel like a prisoner. Don’t set yourself up because she’s hot.

If you’re not sexing her enough, she’s going to cheat or feel like a prisoner.

Be compatible.
Most men have to give in a relationship. A lot of women feel like their presence is a present. It is not. If you do all the giving you will start to feel taken advantage of eventually. Make sure she is supportive, loving and pays attention to your mental health.
There is no substitute for a woman who gives to you as much as you give to her. If she only tears you down, says you aren’t enough and belittles you, she will do that to your children and they will be as broken as her.
If you can stay past all of this and still see potential, go the therapy with her, or leave her alone. Do not stay in toxic relationships.
Jealously is never a good look.

Jealously is never a good look.

If you don’t like how she is dressed, deal with it our leave.

You don’t like her social media, deal with it or leave.

You don’t like her friends, deal with it or leave.

Deal with it, or leave.
She is going to do, what she wants to do, if you find out or not is up to her. You can’t stop her, you can’t contain her, you can’t keep her if she don’t want to be kept.

Nothing you do can control another person. She not scared of you, she’ll just get you back.
Let her do her, if that includes you good, if not, leaver her alone.

If you don’t like how she is, leave her alone.
Suffering in silence is the cornerstone of men in relationships. This happens because it’s easier to just deal with what she’s doing than to address it because it hurt you, because you think it should be done differently.

Do not suffer in silence, if she cares she will listen.
Keeping the peace is important but ask her to talk after everything has been discussed. Make sure you’re calm and schedule a time to talk. Have a rational conversation with her expressing your point and find out why she wants to do things her way. Communication is important. Talk
She can’t fix it if you don’t talk to her, cheating and confiding in your side price won’t help, the problem will still be at home, waiting on you.
Expressing your need is hard for 3 reasons. 1 Society has made men talking about their feelings a feminine act. It is not. The reason men think women are emotionally stronger is b/c they get to express those feelings, not matter what they are & society supports it at all levels.
Number 2 toxic masculinity has demanded men keep their emotions under wraps for centuries. Boys don’t cry, man up, stop being a bitch.

Bro if you’re hurt be hurt.
Tell her you’re hurt.

If she not trying to let you be you, a vulnerable human being, you don’t need her.
Number 3.

Men have no idea how to deal with or even recognize our own emotions. We have been conditioned to suppress them.

We collectively sobbed uncontrollably, mostly alone over Kobe. We’re not allowed to show weakness. We need to be able to display emotions healthly.
Let your needs be know. Tell her what you require. If she’s not willing to give it to you leave or deal with it. You can’t control anyone other than yourself.
A hobby is important to keep your mind off of the everyday life. TV is not a hobby.

Go to the gym
Read
Better yourself

Do something that make it so you are not always up under her and vice versa.
Most women love to talk but do not know what you want to talk about. Ask questions about her and what she has going on. Show interest in her and be who she wants to tell stuff to.

You are a partner, that is more than dick and taking out the trash.
Was the dishes, fold clothes, cook, organize, rub feet, re decorate, vacuume.

She doesn’t care that your my player won 4 strikes championships. You are an able-bodied man, help her do chores and have more energy or you.

You are not above chores.
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