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my thoughts here were SO messy so i'm gonna try to reword them bc i'm a perfectionist monster lol, pls ignore me https://twitter.com/clarz/status/1288071941568499717
essentially, i think the same ppl who assume the boys are v sad when, e.g., jk deletes a tweet or yg has to remove a sample, might be the same ppl who attack others for being "overly familiar" when they joke abt bts (even tho assuming sadness is arguably MORE "overly familiar")
and i'm wondering what these two views say abt how ppl on here view compassion/care. frequently when ppl are attacked for being overly familiar the narrative is "you need to be more careful, bts could see that and feel sad!"
in both cases, we don't have enough info to assume that bts would be sad/are sad, but the fact that they COULD be is considered powerful enough that we MUST assume they are/will be in order to be Good to them
there's this narrative that we must always assume maximum possible emotional damage from our actions (but only toward bts/ppl we like lol) and to me, it feels similar to a view of close/supportive friendships i frequently see on here, esp modeled in social media au dialogue
i.e., this view that being a Good Kind Friend means anticipating even your friends' smallest sadnesses/moments of self doubt and pre-empting those by constantly reassuring them of their value to you
and while i can see how someone else caretaking all of your emotions for you exactly when you need them to could SEEM like a comforting/ideal friendship, it can honestly be a kind of invasive, exhausting, and codependent way to conduct your relationships
so ultimately i think the parallels are interesting, since on the one hand there's "don't act like bts are your friends by joking about them" but that coexists with this desire to ACTUALLY treat them like our friends by anticipating/pre-empting all of their negative emotions
