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Normative heterosexuality makes men & women see each other first as potential romantic partners. We forge other relationships with each other once we have dismissed the possibility of romance but generally we relate with strangers of the opposite gender first as potential lovers. https://twitter.com/erickuscus_/status/1287705344987353089
Even ‘romanticising’ opposite gender friendships between children. Three year olds are being teased for having girlfriends when children are just playing. But because she’s a girl and he’s a boy there must be some romantic infiltration 
Even in the workplace people have work husbands and work wives? The fuck for, you are colleagues. You have a professional relationship why must you romanticise that environment?
I think the better part of the men I have dated should have never been romantic partners and perhaps friendship was better. But because we both got along, had great conversation we thought that meant we ought to date when we actually weren’t romantically compatible at all.
Once you've had a romantic relationship you can't have any other kind of relationship again because hypersexualised heterosexuality dictates that you will always want to sleep with a person you have slept with. Ex partners who remain friends are looked at with so much suspicion
Once your romantic relationship has come to an end and you don't have children the general idea is that you must then unknow that person. You must expunge them from your memory and never interact with them and when you do it must be by accident and it must be brief.
Dating a divorcee assisted me to understand that this is just unrealistic. People can't spend 12 years together then be expected to stop caring about each other's well being upon divorce. They can't erase each other and that relationship is different from the one we have.
