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as someone who used to be an exclusionist i can tell you that transm*d & exclusionist rhetoric is a lot more t*rf oriented than inclusionists.
you guys probably get tired of me going "hnghng transm*d bad bc i used to be one" but it was borderline traumatizing.
you guys probably get tired of me going "hnghng transm*d bad bc i used to be one" but it was borderline traumatizing.
transm*ds and exclus basically tell you to let your dysphoria control you. they want you to bind your chest until you have injuries, they want you to conform to toxic masculinity. they want you to let your internalized bigotry control you until you hurt the people around you.
when i was a transm*d i projected all of my views onto the people around me. since turning my views around i've been told that bc of my views my friends were terrified of coming out to me bc of how vicious i was. i was projecting my OWN issues onto THEM.
as an inclusionist i've apologized and owned up to more of my mistakes than i ever have. i've been able to talk to poc, hesbians, people who use xenogenders, aspec people, and i've been able to learn SO MUCH. i was so restricted. i was so uneducated. and i was so SAD.
the exclusionist mindset is ultimately one that is made up of anger and depression. i have NEVER been happier than i am after accepting myself as aspec and trans. i have NEVER been happier than when i was surrounded by people i would have considered "cringe."
as for this being t*rf rhetoric: t*rfs purposefully misgender people. so do transm*ds. t*rfs try to tell trans women what their "correct" gender is. so do transm*ds. anyone who has seen the hesbian debate knows this, bc transm*ds constantly refer to these lesbians as straight +
men or just straight up misgender them. they try to FORCE you to be comfortable with a set of pronouns or an identity you hate. you know who else does that? t*rfs.
and honestly i never realized just how deeply these ideals ran in t*rf rhetoric until my "idol" (ugh), k*lvin garage, publically defended an admitted t*rf who literally said trans women were men on her twitter, and transm*ds were STILL in love with him.
i'm begging any exclusionist to realize that dictating other people's gender? it IS rooted in t*rf logic. ESPECIALLY if you watch or stan k*lvin garage. you should NOT be dictating other people's bodies, gender identity, gender expression, pronouns, medical history.
it is completely okay to not understand concepts such as he/him lesbians or xenogenders. its okay! i didn't understand hesbians for a long, long time, even after i stopped being transm*d. but not understanding doesn't mean that you can dictate how others feel.
not having the proper education or understanding is NEVER an excuse for bigotry. you don't have to understand it. but you can never, EVER tell these people how to feel, just because it doesn't cater to YOUR understanding of the world. not only is it selfish, but its immature.
the fact that people are comparing t*rfs and inclusionists are so wild to me, because t*rfs have essentially led the exclusionist movement. you wanna know what group has openly admitted to not accepting ace ideals? t*rfs. panphobia? comes from t*rfs bro.
even the fact that you need dysphoria inherently comes from t*rfs. you can google search "do you need dysphoria to be trans" and the very first article says no. it says that SOME trans people have dysphoria, but that it isn't a requirement. t*rfs are the ones that +
pushed the idea that the ONLY trans women they would accept were the ones with dysphoria, and even then, they wouldn't accept them as WOMEN. they'd accept them being trans, mentally, and then tell them to go to conversion therapy. once again, dictating other people's gender.
ever since i've been an inclusionist, or "tucute" or whatever you want to call it, i have found nothing but love and acceptance. as a transm*d the other transm*ds i talked to were angry, and depressed, and dysphoric, and would bully people constantly.
these people don't have the self awareness to realize that they're hurting people bc they're PROJECTING their own fucking pain onto them. either that, or they're just deadass transphobes. i swear cis transm*ds are either closeted trans people who are afraid to come out
due to internalized transphobia, or transphobes who found "the one trans person who made sense" and decided they'd accept... SOME of the transgendereds :) /s
this tweet blew up so uh friendly reminder that black lives matter & the protests aren't over yet! black people need our support so continue signing petitions and donating to as many funds as you can.
i can't reply to everyone bc this thread is blowing up but with everyone dropping your stories below: i'm proud of you for getting out of a community surrounded by toxicity. you're doing so great.
going to mute this thread <3
