Apropos of nothing but I always love when dudes comment on women’s experiences of harassment in gaming with “we all get harassed, you just need to grow thicker skin.”

Buddy. Pal. Friendo. You realize that MOST of the time women play games without revealing their gender, yes?

So, due to default assumptions, women know what it’s like to play “as a man”. We know what average toxic gamer behavior looks like. We‘re familiar with your experience because we experience it too.

And we also know that what we experience when we play as women is something else.

You think you’re tougher than we are when women literally default to your experience because it’s the more pleasant way to play. We pretend to be men, or let our fellow players believe we are because gaming is more fun that way.

Your experience is literally our break my dude.