[abuse] The world isn’t made up of good people, and abusers. It’s made up of people who have all done awful things. Some people work hard to not repeat hurtful actions. Other people fall into abusive patterns of behavior.

All of us can learn and grow.

[abuse] if anyone tells me they’ve never done anything toxic or abusive or cruel, I assume they are not safe. Because it shows they’re either a liar or they lack the self-insight it requires to be a truly good person.

[abuse] the most abusive people are sometimes the ones who are always talking about how awful their ex was, or their old friends, etc. They’re unable to see how their behavior plays into dysfunctional dynamics. They think it’s always someone else’s fault.

[abuse] most people who are truly abusers, also have really good aspects. Very few people are truly evil. Even fewer, I think, than ppl who are truly just GOOD, and nearly blameless.

And just because someone has done awful things doesn’t mean they’re an awful person.

You don’t have to be pure evil to need to change.

And just because you need to change doesn’t mean you’re pure evil.

We can all do better. Always. We’re never fully grown.