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I'm okay with being identified as a trans woman. As long as it is acknowledged that I am non binary. The two seem to be in conflict, because "woman" is inherently binary, which I am not but there is no one way to be non binary.
I am a trans person who was assigned male at birth. I began HRT at the end of my 14th year for the majority of my life I've identified as a woman. (not many options for people experiencing gender variant feelings about themselves.) I am non binary because my feelings
Are complex and do not fit into traditional understandings about what a woman or a female is and feels like. I also felt like binaries are harmful and anyone who doesn't fit into the "unwritten" rules that make them up 100% (nobody) experiences harm in some way. $
To honor my Complex relationship with my body and the world's relationship to my body, I chose to transition my identity to non binary. But that presented its own challenges. Being non binary doesn't shift the experiences I've had as a medically transitioning femme amab person.
My experiences are still synonymous to that of black trans women but I find that I and other people struggle in conversation to include me when I am in groups with trans women. Also where does that leave me? Am I now disinvited from spaces exclusive for trans women?
When people are talking about the women of Pose am I left out? Or do they have to change it to the femmes of Pose just because I am part of that group? (yes) but that's not completely attainable always depending on who's covering the story. It's also alot of work
To constantly correct publications all the time, alone. I also am in constant fear of being seen as too difficult (I already am in some ways) for pushing people to affirm my identity. It is alot of work and results ultimately in the erasure of non binary people.
It's alot to hold, its tiring too. But it also doesn't trigger dysphoric feelings to be associated to women in the same way that it does to be associated to men. So while I sort out the complexities of my identity in a world culture that seldom affirms non binary ppl, I am ok
With being associated with trans women. my life expectancy is still 35 for most of the same reasons trans women's are and I am unsure of the language available to name that and honor my non binary identity. While I would love for us all to just be id'd as trans femmes
I don't exactly expect that shift to be made just because I'm in the group and I think it's important that trans women are affirmed for and as the women they are at all times.
I'm sure alot of folks will have alot of thoughts about this and I welcome them. But this is really sensitive and complicated for me and it would mean the world if this topic was approached with some level of care if you do choose to engage. 
Im ok w. she/her I prefer they them
Im ok w. she/her I prefer they them
