Marriage is not a reward God only gives to deserving singles.

I’m really sick of hearing things that imply this from Christians. It’s bad theology and bad logic.
Ppl who are immature, selfish, not “content”, or who just don’t have it all together get married all the time.

Plus, everything we have and are given is undeserved grace from God. Not a reward for our good behavior. Christians should get this most of all.

As I turn 30 this year, SO many well meaning Christians in my life try to encourage me by telling me to be content in singleness, sharing stories of people they know who got married later and how it happened when they were ready, etc. It’s frustrating to listen to.

Throughout my 20s, I’ve had periods of being very content and not even wanting a relationship, as well as very lonely times, and everything in between. I do want to be content in all things, a la Phil. 3, but it’s also ok to grieve, to have times of frustration, to not be ok...

God understands and he is not withholding a relationship (or giving one) based on my/our worthiness.