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A thread about intent vs. impact When I mess up on social media, I like to use my mistakes as examples in the hopes that it will spare others from repeating my blunders.
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Yesterday I saw a tweet from someone I respect and admire. She recently moved into a new home and their mom - a dynamic woman they clearly adore - had been staying with her. She tweeted a joke about her momâs visit.
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When I read the tweet, it made me smile. It reminded me of my own mom and how maddeningly helpful she was when Iâm moved into my first apartment in college.
I tweeted a reply.
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I tweeted a reply.
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I didnât think anything of my tweet.
Later the same day, I saw this
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Later the same day, I saw this
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I responded to that tweet.
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I looked through the replies to her original tweet to figure out who the a$$hole was that said something so insensitive.
The only tweet it could have been was MINE.
I was mortified.
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The only tweet it could have been was MINE.
I was mortified.
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The reply I thought was a pure-hearted expression of me missing my mom did NOT land the way I intended.
The impact of my tweet was that I sounded âmacabre and narcissistic.â
Ouch.
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The impact of my tweet was that I sounded âmacabre and narcissistic.â
Ouch.
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I DMâed an apology but I donât expect or deserve a response.
The moral of the story is this: The intent begind our words doesnât matter. AT ALL. If the impact of our words is harmful, we have to take ownership of that.
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The moral of the story is this: The intent begind our words doesnât matter. AT ALL. If the impact of our words is harmful, we have to take ownership of that.
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My tweet was wrong. The intent behind it doesnât matter.
My cheeks burned with shame when I realized *I* was the âmacabre and narcissisticâ
a$$hole.
But Iâm going to do my best to learn from it. I hope you will too.
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My cheeks burned with shame when I realized *I* was the âmacabre and narcissisticâ
a$$hole.
But Iâm going to do my best to learn from it. I hope you will too.
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