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We’ve circled around to “bi means TWO” in the exclusionist discourse and “YOU CAN’T SAY YOU’RE BI IF U LIKE MORE THAN TWO GENDERS IT’S ~INVALIDATING~” like oh my god deadass...mind ur business ur 14 and WRONG
vent// I’m at a point where I see the word “invalidate” and I immediately go for the block like Jesus H Christ get a grip you fucking babies. You don’t know what you’re talking about. You need to listen to the grown-ups.
And like I HATE being dismissive of kids. Because they are PEOPLE and deserve to have their thoughts and opinions listened to. But the energy online rn is “I’m a minor so I can’t do wrong and if u tell me I am ur attacking me!!!” and it is NOT conductive to the /
sharing and learning of queer history. Like...no, sorry, sometimes adults REALLY DO KNOW BETTER THAN YOU. LISTEN TO QUEER PEOPLE OVER THE AGE OF 20.
And on that note: those adults may have differing opinions. It is OKAY to not be sure what you think on a subject. It’s OKAY to need to learn more and think things over. And it’s OKAY to change your mind!!
It’s NOT OKAY to double down, repeat the same stupid nonsensical shit and just flat out refuse to listen to ppl trying to talk to you and explain their point of view (unless, obviously, their “point of view” is whether or not ppl deserve human rights)
And no, “this is invalidating BECAUSE I SAY SO” is not a, for lack of better word, valid argument. Ask yourself: what about this label ACTUALLY harms you? What ACTUAL, MATERIAL harm does it directly cause?
“It makes us look like a joke—“ homophobes ALREADY think we are a joke
“It makes us look like a joke—“ homophobes ALREADY think we are a joke
There is no point in trying to appease them. And, even queer people u think are “not valid” or “cringey” deserve human rights just as much as you.
“Well, it will make x (cishet men) think it’s ok to—“ honey...they Do Not Care. Their entitlement is their OWN PROBLEM and has /
“Well, it will make x (cishet men) think it’s ok to—“ honey...they Do Not Care. Their entitlement is their OWN PROBLEM and has /
/ existed since time immemorial. Cishet men’s sense of entitlement towards women/ppl they perceive as women is NOT the fault of other women and queer ppl.
“It doesn’t make sense!” Literally just listen to ppl who use these labels. Let go of the idea that queer labels are /
“It doesn’t make sense!” Literally just listen to ppl who use these labels. Let go of the idea that queer labels are /
/ easily divided and compartmentalized. There is overlap! There always has been! Just listen to others. Also read queer literature!!! Stone Butch Blues is available FOR FREE!!!!!!
Learn about the radfem movement and its history in queer spaces because it DIRECTLY INFLUENCED /
Learn about the radfem movement and its history in queer spaces because it DIRECTLY INFLUENCED /
/ EXCLUSIONISM and even if you don’t think you “can” be a radfem or a TERF, by participating in this policing of other queer people and this label essentialism, you are aligning yourself with their views.
/ terfs and radfems have acknowledged that exclusionism is one of the FIRST STEPS they use in getting people—usually young and impressionable ppl who AREN’T AWARE OF QUEER HISTORY—on board with their other beliefs!
Bottom line is: what other people call themselves? Does Not Affect You. No one is forcing you to use any labels you don’t want to use. Even if you don’t think it’s RIGHT, you gain NOTHING by attacking other queer people.
I know it’s fun to dunk on ppl but literally you are contributing more to harming your own communities than someone calling themselves by a label you don’t think is “real”
(For the record, ppl used to—AND STILL DO—think bi and pan “aren’t real.” So sit with that for a minute.)
(For the record, ppl used to—AND STILL DO—think bi and pan “aren’t real.” So sit with that for a minute.)
Also “well this lesbian told me this and YOU aren’t a lesbian so you have no authority to—“ yeah neither does the 16yo lesbian who doesn’t know a lick of queer theory. And maybe that’s harsh but... Being queer does not inherently make you an expert on your letter in the acronym.
ESPECIALLY when the thing you’re trying to be an expert on is something as complex as gender and sexuality. Because, shockingly, these are EXTREMELY internal experiences and like! My experience of being bi is not going to be the same as other bi ppl!
I keep saying I’m done and then like “and ANOTHER THING—“ but seriously we as a community have fought too long and too hard to start trying to enforce restrictive rules on what ppl are allowed to feel and what they’re allowed to call themselves.
Like remember the “if a person says they’re x, they’re x. You don’t get to argue with someone over their existence” WHERE DID THAT ENERGY GO
Like you’re really gonna laugh at homophobes crying over how “gay marriage delegitimizes straight marriage” but then turn around and pull the same shit on other queer ppl?
Someone else doing something that makes them happy (that doesn’t hurt other ppl) does NOT impact you doing your thing.
And, again, if you GENUINELY think someone using a label different from yours is harmful, I welcome you to explain how. Break it down for me.
And, again, if you GENUINELY think someone using a label different from yours is harmful, I welcome you to explain how. Break it down for me.
I’m not bluffing, I’m willing to listen to what you have to say. And my DMs are open. 
