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A DEFINITE WAY OF HANDLING NARCISSISM IN RELATIONSHIPS
In looking at people we tend to overemphasize thier individual traits and not look at the more complex picture of how each side in a relationship continually shapes the other.
In looking at people we tend to overemphasize thier individual traits and not look at the more complex picture of how each side in a relationship continually shapes the other.
A relationship has a life and personality of its own.
And a relationship can also be deeply narcissistic, accentuating or even bringing out the narcissistic tendencies of both sides.
And a relationship can also be deeply narcissistic, accentuating or even bringing out the narcissistic tendencies of both sides.
What generally makes a relationship narcissistic is the lack of empathy that makes the partners retreat deeper and deeper into thier own defensive positions.
The use of empathy has the opposite effect of mutua narcissism.
The use of empathy has the opposite effect of mutua narcissism.
Coming from one side, it tends to soften the other one up and invite his or her empathy as well. It is hard to stay in one's defensive position when the other person is seeing and expressing your side and entering your spirit. It beckons you to do the same.
Secretly, people yearn to let go of thier resistance. It is exhausting to continually be so defensive and suspicious. The key to employing empathy within relationship is to understand the value system of the other person, which inevitably is different from yours.
Keep in mind that the value system will allow you to enter thier spirit and perspective precisely in the moment you would normally turn defensive. Such attention is rare. Measure all of your relationship on the narcissism spectrum. It is not one person or the other but the
Dynamic itself that must be altered --- my 10 cents on narcissism in human nature.
