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No shade to the OP.
#Thread on #gender: I’m often baffled at how women & femmes work to help while protecting men’s egos, allowing them to continue to feel a false sense of individual (versus shared) accomplishment. This tweet is a tiny mostly harmless example of a larger issue. https://twitter.com/cherrybarbarian/status/1281622455996620805
#Thread on #gender: I’m often baffled at how women & femmes work to help while protecting men’s egos, allowing them to continue to feel a false sense of individual (versus shared) accomplishment. This tweet is a tiny mostly harmless example of a larger issue. https://twitter.com/cherrybarbarian/status/1281622455996620805
Someone in the comments compared it to how men stereotypically don’t want to read directions or maps, just figure it out on their own. That often takes more time & labor. Also, have you ever tried to help a man or encourage him to seek help & he screams at you for suggesting it?
I have! Some men are so deeply entrenched in the idea that: getting help = weakness & weakness = femininity, that they don’t go to doctors even when they’re in pain, don’t go to therapy, don’t get help of any kind until there’s a full blown crisis in process...if that.
Men’s inability to seek help harms them & those around them. And when we subtley support this behavior by trying to fucking inception help into their brains in ways that make them feel like tiny kings, we perpetuate this harmful gender norm.
It’s good to want to help men in your life. It’s dangerous to allow them to not fully witness, understand & appreciate the ways you help, to understand themselves as self-made men who bootstrapped their way to success, no matter how minor.
Teach men & boys to seek, accept & appreciate help in the small things (like beating a hard part of a video game) so they’re more prepared to seek, accept & appreciate help for the things that truly matter. Disrupt harmful gender norms now to eradicate them later.
*End rant*
*End rant*
