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anyway, i lost 20kgs of my bad-bitch weight in the past year and i have a few tHoUgHtS (a thread)
as someone who has PCOs and diabetes-prone genes, losing weight was not only extremely tough but also imperative. my obgyn told me that my case was fairly mild rn but if i were to gain weight, i would suffer from irregular period, hormonal issues, endometriosis etc
my journey towards fully loving my body two years ago when i started seeing a therapist to help me with my relationship with food. i’m immensely proud of being able to change my mental dialogue and changing my binge and emotional eating habits.
more people need to acknowledge that not every body is the same & BMI is a sham based on averages calculated from european bodies. not everyone who is 5’6 like me should have to weigh 63 kgs. it’s neither achievable for everyone nor should it be a gold standard for health.
i remember i had an argument about body positivity with a close friend and colleague that put me in a very dark place at the time. the person claimed that fat people were lazy and it was unhealthy to be fat. so fat people being in magazines, fashion campaigns, more VISIBLE etc
encouraged this and allowed for people to think it was okay to neglect your body.
listen, i’ve heard this shit so many times that i would normally let it slide but what made me particularly upset was the fact that this person was “woke” and i never in a million years would’ve
listen, i’ve heard this shit so many times that i would normally let it slide but what made me particularly upset was the fact that this person was “woke” and i never in a million years would’ve
expected such negativity. anyway, they apologised and i let it be.
the reason i want to have this conversation now is that my body now, suddenly, warrants all sorts of compliments,
“haye tumhari tou kamar nikal gayi hai”
“ab jo merzi pehna chaho pehen sakti ho”
the reason i want to have this conversation now is that my body now, suddenly, warrants all sorts of compliments,
“haye tumhari tou kamar nikal gayi hai”
“ab jo merzi pehna chaho pehen sakti ho”
obviously, i’ve been feeling better about myself, too, ngl. not because i lost weight but because people have started to approve of me as a person worthy of space. i was posting photos flaunting my body then and i’m posting photos flaunting my body now..
i was unafraid and unapologetic then and now. but it would’ve liked to hear them then more so than now. why is it that i’m more worthy of praise and space and acknowledgement when i weigh a certain number. it’s bs.
instead i got, “thorra sa lose kerlo, bus thora sa...”
over it
instead i got, “thorra sa lose kerlo, bus thora sa...”
over it
i legit went to a doctor for a chest infection. he told me it was due to acidity and that i should control my weight and raise the head of my bed with a brick (????) god’s honest truth. i’m sure that’s something that MAYBE tends to happen but he didn’t even explore any further??
i really don’t know where i’m going with this anymore but please be kinder to people who don’t conform to conventional beauty standards, be kinder and to those of you who are on a weight loss journey, remind yourself that you were worthy then and you’re worthy now.
AND STOP POSTING BEFORE/AFTER PICS WITH A NEGATIVE CONOTATION. there are lots of bodies that look like your “before” picture and there’s enough people putting them down on a day to day basis without someone who knows the struggle? who has BEEN THERE, doing it, too. (fin)
