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Anyone who wants to challenge me on the men vs women debate is foolish. I have years of practise debating issues on gender privilege with James. Plus we live in a patriarchy you won’t win.
Statistically speaking male suicide rates and homelessness are much higher for men. They are crapped on for having feelings which is awful and they have immense pressure on them to be successful.
However, you are more likely to be taken seriously as a man. You get paid more. You demand more respect when you walk into a room. People don’t question your intelligence or whether you are qualified to do your job. You are less likely to be sexually assaulted.
You are more likely to be attacked on the street as a man (exclusionary of sexual assault).
Now as a woman your stats are very different. As a woman you are raised on the belief that you must be likeable to men. Not difficult or opinionated or strong. You are raised as a little girl with ideas about being rescued by a man who will protect you from the evil of the world.
We read fairytales and watch Disney movies and we grow up with a hugely idealistic view of how men are meant to be. Then we become adults and thus ‘men ain’t shit’ was born.
Society tells women who are not white, middle class, thin, beautiful, heterosexual and likeable that they are somehow less than women who embody this archetype.
We cannot be too fat or too thin. We can’t wear too much or too little make up. We can’t dress in a way that could be perceived as provocative even if we’re simply doing it because it’s thirty degrees out and we don’t want to get heat stroke.
Can’t be a slut or a prude. Cannot challenge the authority of men. Can’t go for a walk at night without the fear of being kidnapped or raped.
We can’t be ‘basic’ we can’t be smart. Literally everything we do is policed. Women cannot have any fun without a man piping up and saying wow what a bitch. How dare she wear THOSE shorts in Disneyland (as if it’s not a billion degrees in Florida)
Talking about this doesn’t mean I hate men. I’ve been let down by men my entire life and it could’ve turned me into the biggest man hating bitch on the planet. Instead it gave me a desire to understand how you work. I have a lot of male friends, more so than than women.
I don’t believe all men are shit. Men and women are different. We communicate in different ways. We have different priorities. Women find men alien and they find us wildly overcomplicated.
Men and women are raised differently. Men are taught to be strong. To bury their feelings. Women are taught to be aggreable and accommodating and emotionally open. But people as a whole cannot only be expected to fall into these categories.
In hindsight it’s probably a waste I never got to write a dissertation on gender dichotomy but hey ho 
Then there’s the physical differences. There’s no hiding the fact that women are not physically as strong. It’s why sexual assault for women is so common. As a survivor of this I was well aware in all my situations that my life could be placed at risk if I protested.
Telling a woman who has been sexually assaulted or raped that she should’ve fought back is hugely ignorant. Have you seen the difference in strength? Even if she did fight back it wouldn’t do shit.
You’re telling me I was sexually assaulted in my own bed by my best friend (who was huge I will add). He molested me and you’re telling me I didn’t do enough? I stayed quiet because I didn’t want him to rape me. And that’s not enough? I will be traumatised forever.
I had to see him three years later and serve him and his girlfriend at my job. I had to look my abuser in the face and be nice to him and you’re suggesting in that situation I should’ve done more. No. No. NO NO NO!
I was 19. When I met him at 16 there were rumours he did this. We had a sexual history. Does that mean I asked for it? No. Because he didn’t have the right to my body when I didn’t consent. It has ruined sex for me and I am afraid of the dark since that night.
I cannot express this enough unless you have been through it you are not entitled to an opinion of any of it. You support you empathise and that is it. Because any comments are triggering and undermine what sexual assault victims go through.
I’m not openly putting my story on here for sympathy or likes. I didn’t tell anyone I was assaulted for four years after it happened. I was worried I would have to report it and go through all the grief of re-living what happened.
When my family and my boyfriend found out they were heartbroken and appalled. I’m very close to my family and I didn’t know how to tell them. My best friend experienced a similar situation the same year.
My assaults, my shitty physically and emotionally abusive father, the man who raised me and abandoned me at 12 years old.Leaving me to support the family emotionally when I was a literal child. And the countless crappy men who have let me down since is enough for me to hate them
Has this made me think men are inherently evil? No. I still come to the table with an open mind and an open heart. Because I believe that people should be given a chance. Do I trust men? Heck no. But I want to learn how to understand you better so maybe one day I can.
This is the second time I’ve mentioned my sexual assault and unlike the outpouring of support for other women, mine slipped through the net and everyone was silent. So if you wanna sit here embarrassed by my story feeling awkward you can unfollow me.
Because frankly I am tired of certain people going through the same thing and not getting the support because they aren’t ‘popular’. If you can read all of this and it not make you want to at the least tell me you are sorry it happened to me, you can honestly get lost.
So yeah people can come for me for being a crazed passionate female with strong opinions. I don’t give a fuck. Women deserve better. Equality needs to happen for everyone’s sake. If you don’t believe women are your equal, please unfollow me now 
Anywho lads. That was an exhaustingly long rant so I’m gonna go make some tea and toast. Big love for everyone on here who takes the time to read these. I appreciate you 
PS. If you want to make a shitty comment about this story do me a favour and don’t because so help me you don’t want to argue with me today. Don’t mention the typos either. I can see them. Cut me some slack and politely fuck off
