Autogynephiles play a long game. They act the perfect partner till they're established under your roof then casually introduce the topic of cross-dressing like it was an occasional little harmless hobby.
Like maybe knitting or growing bonsai.
Only gradually do you come to realise, as you slave to pay the bills and parent the kids, that it's really their entire life and you are, and have always only ever been, just the support system.
This man is a serial woman-abuser who daily gaslights and exploits you. You struggle to protect your kids, especially when your daughter approaches puberty and he wants to 'do girly things together'.
Real women know that not all 'girly things' are even fun cos they are foisted on us as we are socialised to perform 'femininity'. Grown predatory men should not be pressuring young girls into them. Ever.
Accomplished narcissists and liars, your AGP will have turned your social circle against you and eaten away at your boundaries and confidence. The more you need to leave, the harder it gets.
Support organisations will all call you out as transphobic as your AGP hides his all-consuming paraphilia under the big pink/blue umbrella. Because he can.
You are left ground down, poor, deceived, exhausted while he is lionised and validated. You are the uptight, old-fashioned, evilly transphobic one. You have been had.
His narcissism is all-consuming, his whole life is about him acting the part of woman better than you ever could. Most are big into porn and staged sexual encounters as a woman.
A paraphila or fetish is a substitute for a love-life, not an adjunct to one. He loves himself 100% and uses you 100%.
Life with an AGP.
Not a hobby, a whole life.
Don't. Just don't.
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