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I keep thinking "it can't be as simple as respecting each other" because so many of us seem to have difficulty with it, but... what if it really is that simple https://twitter.com/nototally/status/1281760353479610369
I might delete this later, but I can share that I am currently in the DMs with someone who I find physically attractive, and I let them know that, and it led to a) me understanding it's never gonna happen and b) a beautiful conversation about the mechanics of avoiding harm
I am not going to divulge too much because I'm allowed to have private things, weirdos, and also because someone else is involved, and also because there are enough one size fits all manipulation techniques out there and I don't want my thoughts to form another one
Here's what I will say: do not even think about attempting this if you truly, deep down, will have ANY type of feelings about being rejected, or even certain types of feelings about ending up together
You know when it's easiest to do that? Closest to the time you met the person, because you don't have years and years of history yet at that point. And something like this should ideally color your relationship moving forward instead of destroying the relationship's past
I wish I could share it all without worrying that it would be subverted into MRA shit, but it is what it is I guess, but there's a potential trauma element here that I won't go into but will acknowledge very much exists
